Who Is the Healer Here?

It’s such a shame that by the time most of us finally get a handle on how life really works, it’s pretty late in the game.

It turns out that all those vices that we once adored may not have been so beneficial after all.

All thexcessose wild and crazy times with friends and anyone else around us back then, might not have been so “fun” the next morning when our eyes finally opened and our head stopped spinning. But then we went right back to them the next weekend, and the weekend after that, etc.

All those wheelbarrows full of chips, dips, sodas, hot dogs, nacho grandes, and candy bars we carted home from the grocery store or the fast-food joint, might not have been as nutritious and body-supportive as our younger minds once told us that they were. (Or as nutritious as our after-adolescent/pre-retirement minds told us they were.)

All those times we took the elevator rather than the stairs because the extra exercise was just too much effort, is starting to add up around our ever-expanding middle. Elastic waistbands or sweatpants have become our favorite mode of lower-body coverage. And those spandex pants stretched to infinity trying to cover 20-lbs of potatoes in 10-lb sack, is almost obscene from the rearview people! (Please don’t make me see that again.)

So here we are now….approaching middle-age from one side or the other (that’s if we live to be at least 100yrs), asking various doctors and nutritionists why we feel so awful.

  • Why does my body hurt?dr and pill
  • Why do I have indigestion?
  • Why can’t I eat the things I once did without regretting it in an hour?
  • Why do I have no energy?
  • Why can’t I sleep?
  • My head hurts. My body hurts. My back is killing me. My feet fall asleep.
  • Is there some pill or supplement that I can take to feel better NOW?

You know, I could claim that as an energy therapist or a hypnotist these are the very symptoms that I hear when people come to me hoping that I can help them find relief from some suffering and pain symptom; but in truth, I’m no different than any of those folks are—I’ve been there doing the “not so healthy” things in my youth that have likely contributed to my own present-day aches and pains. I just don’t do as much of them any longer, if at all.

So it’s pretty hard for me to criticize anyone; and it’s even hard for me to listen to those proselytizers who mount their mobile soapbox in front of a captive audience and shake a pencil-thin finger at others for their evidential health transgressions.

I mean really. We ARE human. We likely have had poor role models throughout our youth (and I don’t mean the razor-thin ones walking the fashion runways).

Not to mention that most of us didn’t have “Michele Obama mothers” who were as educated and disciplined about our early eating habits; because we more than likely had “Bill Clinton appetites” for fast burgers and fries on the side, oh yeah, …with a chocolate milkshake—to go, please.

However, in saying that we are both the products of tainted genetics and marketing-driven environments, there is still the important fact that WE are in charge of our own health; and it is UP TO US to change our ways to eating a healthier diet and to getting more exercise.

But it’s also up Jesus and the blind manto us to realize that the only one who really “heals you” is yourself. I and any other health practitioner can help all that we are able to help, but the rest is up to you (or me with my own aches and pains). We actually are the main determiners of our own healing—sometimes at this level of awareness and sometimes at the level of our Higher Self—depending on the lessons we came here to explore.

In reality as we presently know it there are NO silver bullets that magically eliminate a health foe. Nor are there instant “feel better” pills for chronic suffering. Yes, there are “feel-nothing” pills (or alcohol) that are addictive, but those aren’t the same as actually improving your health condition. Those just make you care less if you ever feel anything again—good or bad. That’s why they should be avoided.

In conclusion, I wish I could tell the person who called me over the weekhealthy body quoteend pertaining to his deteriorating health condition that, “Yes, you bet. I’ll have you feeling WAY better in no time.”

Except in all likelihood, I might be able to help you a little, but most of the work will be up to you and how you choose to live your life.

Wake Up Alice! …This Rabbit-hole Trip Is Getting Old

Alice and rabbitTo say that this is a very strange time is the understatement of the age. The degree of pot-stirring in previously untouchable subject matter is both mind-boggling and jaw-dropping. It is totally cringe-worthy!

And as much as I would like all the world-wide chaos to settle down, and for the world to be a calmer, more enjoyable living environment for all of us, I also think I understand part of the necessity that it is the way it presently seems.

I wasn’t kidding earlier about the disruptive and penetrating energies coming in now being similar to lake turn-over in my post of “Upside-down and Sideways.” Energetically that’s what this really is—a time of skuzzy-bottom content rising to the surface for purification and clearing—which is neither pretty nor pleasant for anyone; especially for the fish—with which we now have a much closer association.

The Paris terrorism situation has created a reactionary back-lash that now resembles bait-the-bear. And you know what happens when you entice the bear with a juicy morsel tied to a nearby tree? Sure. The bear can’t resist the tasty temptation, and it becomes an easier target to catch/kill. I understand that part. But I have a few questions, as well.

Is this nasty situation creating over-reactions on both sides of the free-speech, “no subject is off-limits” issue? Yes.

Is this “cover-as-bait” really a calculated tactic that only time will show whether or not is effective in drawing terror cells out of hiding to “avenge” the perceived publicized insult?

Was that the Charlie Hebdo editorial staff’s main intention with the latest cover art—to draw out the terror Voltairecells that still might be hiding nearby? Hmmm…..I don’t think so.

I think they were just standing up strongly for freedom of speech, which is their right, as it is anyone’s right to decide their own beliefs and opinions. You don’t cower to a bully—you face them down at the start, or you will be constantly cowering ever afterwards. That is what I think the magazine’s staff were doing—just taking a very strong stand for their own freedom of speech. How their actions were perceived, is up to individual interpretation.

Did the Pope need to chime in with his two-cents worth on punching someone who might be insulting his mother or his religion? No. But he did. Talk about mixed messages in that little media exchange…. “violence is never acceptable—but I’d punch you if you insult my mother or religion.”

So where does that leave the rest of us who are on the sidelines, watching this mess unfold as it is likely going to unfold—violently, gruesomely, and chaotically in nations, states, and cities world-wide? Yes, we are simply shaking our heads and expecting the worst, but all hoping that this world society grows up sometime soon and stops taking itself so seriously. It’s like living through adolescence all over again.

On the other hand, that same energetic lake turn-over effect that throws everything into chaos also brings the forbidden subjects to the forefront of public attention to see whether there really is a smoldering fire within them, or just a lingering, still-smoky, half-wet pile of leaves there that hasn’t yet burned through all the combustible material.

It is loudly emphasizing the basic questions of what makes any religion the basis of a deeply-held belief; and are the religious beliefs/doctrines justifiable if they pit one group of people against other groups of people?

Red QueenI would expect these issues and subjects will become mainstream topics for the next year or so, as we will likely have more opportunities to examine their reactors’/detractors’ actions and reactions to the on-going saga.

Personally, I request for someone to PLEASE show Alice the way out of this never-ending rabbit-hole, or at least please nudge her awake. The Red Queen is getting a bit out of hand here.

The Puzzle

I think I’ve mentioned somewhere long ago that I love putting together jigsaw puzzles—in fact, the more pieces, the better. This time of year when the snow is blowing hard and the “wind comes sweeping down the plain” as it does in Iowa, as well as Oklahoma, it provides a lot of reflection time while contemplating how many layers of clothing are necessary to simply go to the mailbox at around zero degrees.

So puzzles be my thing in the winter. They provide mental challenge and keep my fingers active searching for similarities in color, texture and shape. I think I have about 20 boxes of them now, and every winter I pull them all out, one by one, and obsess over them hour after hour until each is completed.

Then I make myself wait at least a day after puzzle completion before I crumple the pieces all together again, stuff them back into their plastic bag until next winter, and pull out another one to start. (My thing must be in the challenge, rather than the completion. I don’t linger long on accomplishments.)

I view thisIMG_5089 dismantling aspect as similar to the Tibetan Monks creating their multi-colored sand paintings. If you’ve never witnessed that amazing process of creation and dissipation, it is well worth your time.

After the monk’s reverent acknowledgement of their sand-mandala’s completion, and after adequate “beauty and unity” contemplation time, the monks then ceremoniously gather all the brightly-colored sands into a single cDSC_0167ontainer and bless the local rivers with the sand mixture that had once been their total focus and purpose for being, during those awesome hours of unified cDSC_0186reation.

Likewise, I always bless the large, plastic storage box beneath my card table with mine, at least until next year.

Why I’m mentioning this puzzle fixation again is that yesterday as I’m nearing the “last hundred pieces” point (meaning 9/10ths of puzzle completed), I was looking at the remaining vacant space in the puzzle frame and eyeing the pieces remaining to be appropriately relocated into the picture, and thinking “If Life is metaphor, what is the metaphor that I am displaying here in what I am doing?”

It was easily seen that I had left the most “difficult to determine differences” (3D) section of the puzzle to the last where there were fewer pieces to choose from, which meant greater likelihood of success in selection.

At this point, my eyes were tiring and with fewer pieces on the table, I switched to a comparison strategy with the remaining shapes—which means I put all the pieces with knobs at top and bottom, on one side of the table, and the pieces with knobs at the sides on the other. Then I lined them up in columns so my eyes could more quickly slide down each column looking for tell-tale differences in knob size and location on the piece.

Depending on the puzzle design, some have only two basic shapes: knobs at top and bottom, or knobs at the sides. Other puzzles designers have the most contorted, no-two-shapes-the-same thing going that make this type of categorizing impossible, but this puzzle allowed for comparison columns. That was my end-strategy for completion.

“How does this apply to your life?” my mind kept prodding. “What is YOUR end-strategy for completion?” (Oh, now THAT put a different twist to that life-as-metaphor-thing, didn’t it? Yes.)

My end-strategy for completion as demonstrated by this metaphorical puzzle presently under my nose:

  • Subtlety….it’s about subtle differences now—about detail and finesse—the aspects you might have overlooked before when there was too many choices.
  • Now I looked for subtle color hues and picture clarity or fuzziness per piece—individual distinction and color blends.
  • I simplified the selection comparison process—to be easier on the eyes and mind.
  • I had a specific area left to finish, so I narrowed my focus and attention to further sub-dividing the section left to work into even smaller areas until one area was completed, then I moved to another section and did the same. (That “sub-dividing and conquering” thing.)
  • I also savored the selection of the last ten pieces because I knew that what was left was the end of my time with this puzzle, so I carefully scanned the choices before reaching for a possibility. I’m more selective of friends now as well.

As I now stare down at the completed puzzle—a white-ish Bavarian castle surrounded in fall foliage, backdropped by blue mountains and baby-blue sky with puffy white clouds—all 18” x 23” of it, I think of what my friend said when she saw me about midway into it: “Why are you doing that one? It’s not very pretty. It doesn’t look very fun to do.”

And I think, well, once I start a puzzle I don’t quit until I’ve finished it. Maybe that IS the metaphor of my life here. It may not be very pretty or much fun, but it’s mine—it’s MY puzzle.

It’s really not the end-point that matters in life, since the end is pre-determined for all of us. What matters most in life is in how well we face each challenge along the way, and how we make all those seemingly-random pieces of our life fit together into a coherent picture by the end.

Life for all of us is a challenge to be accepted, deciphered and made sense of in the best way that we can.

We frame our lives in the context of not-so-random pieces brought together for a purpose. The challenge for us is in determining that IMG_5049purpose before we complete the puzzle. Hopefully we all can do that—make some sense of our own puzzles before the end. I hope you can. I’m still working on mine.

Photos by Angel Lyle, Davenport, Iowa

The Relevance-Maker

I hate to end the year on downer subjects, so I’ll try not to. We all really need some lightness around the holidays for whatever reason that we do, and we definitely do this year. It’s been a rough year everywhere. We’re all feeling it—you are not alone in that “down-ward facing dog” pose you might be feeling right now.

Hence, the first thought that crossed my mind when this blank page popped onto my screen was a quote from an old cop-show that I’d probably seen for the 3rd or 4th time yesterday because the writing in it is clever. After figuring out a tough-case scenario, the main character quips with a smirk to his partner, “The mind is a relevance-making machine.”

Yes, it is!

For an old cop show that is a VERY profound statement, but that particular cop was always saying things like thCI Goldblumeat. He was the son of two psychiatrist parents, with himself once being a concert pianist who was now devoting his every waking moment to catching the “bad guys” in cases too tough for those standard detectives who are average folks, just like you and me.

That’s quite the story line—here’s a new breed of highly-educated cop with an out-of-the-box, in-depth perspective from childhood onward to why people do what they do. He then utilizes that cultivated knowledge (Why? What’s his ulterior reason to do so? They never say.) to know WHO committed the puzzling homicides, because this cop knows the perpetrator’s inner workings—their motivations, their weaknesses, their longings. He’s heard it—he’s seen it—he’s been there. No social strata can deter him. He sees through all economic determiners and all intelligence levels. All personas lie naked to his piercing gaze and psyche-infiltrating questions.

Is that scenario likely in real-life? No. But it’s good television. It’s a bit like the news now: Where fact comes up short for a 24-hour news cycle, add drama and speculation.

Relevance making is what we do every day of the world: We try to make sense of what is happening to us and all around us. We NEED to make sense of our world, so we look for relevance clues to tell us WHY things happen the way that they do.

Even when there is NO relevance to be found, we FIND it—we create it, because we NEED to know that the world has reasons and rules to live by. We follow rules and we expect others to do the same. We do this because we need to feel that our lives make sense and have a purpose, even when they may seem purposeless.

Even when the world seems to be crashing in around us, we need to know WHY it seems that way, because if there is NO sense to be made from it, then everything feels pointless—including our lives, our very existence.

But our minds will NOT let that happen—our minds will not let us feel pointless. So our internal information-filtrlid-on-frypan fireation system, takes bits and pieces of all the things that occur in our life, and it throws them all in a big bag then shakes the “coating” bag, and dumps the contents into the hot skillet to cook up a “reason” why this seemingly senseless thing might have happened.

After flipping that “reason” a couple times in the skillet over a hot flame, it looks more palatable, and we may become more likely to bite into it. Even if it isn’t very edible, we’ll likely chew on that “reason” for awhile trying to make sense of it.

But in some instances, what we are actually doing is trying to make sense of a senseless act, and trying to find relevance—something relatable to what is important to us—from the act.

Sometimes there is no relevance to be had or made in senseless acts. That’s simply what they are. Our relevance-maker can try all it wants to make sense of senselessness, but sometimes, the best relevance it can make is to acknowledge that sometimes things happen beyond our ability to comprehend—beyond our ability to understand.

So sometimes you simply have to “let go—and let God.” That’s the statement we often make when we surrender to a higher power and a greater intelligence than our own.

On some level, senseless acts likely do make sense. But on this level of awareness—where you and I exist, they may not. Sometimes that senselessness is a hard thing to swallow. So don’t even try to swallow it. Just spit it back out. It’s okay to do that.

Just say a prayer for those most directly affected by any act of senselessness wherever it might occur, and be thankful if you’re not one of them experiencing it; and then turn it all over to the Chief “Relevance-Maker” above our own, and simply let it all go.

In essence, that’s the only sensible thing that you can do. And the only relevance your mind can make from such senselessness is in the recognition that, yes, …it was senseless.

Upside-down and Sideways

society6-blenderFor the past month, if you’ve felt a bit like you were caught in a blender stuck on “PUREE”, …it’s because you have been. The energies everywhere have been and still are, pretty awful and pretty intense.

I’ve spent an entire month cocooning to conserve my energies and my sanity, because what we are collectively experiencing energy-wise, in aquatic terms would be called Lake Turnover.

Lake Turnover is where the bottom lake water with its warmer, more stable temperatures, rises swiftly to the top and the cooler top water sinks fast to the bottom; or in effect, the water layers with their corresponding temperatures, flip positions inversely. It can wreck havoc on aquatic life and leave uninhabitable zones in its wake.

We, as a global society, are experiencing an inversion energy-shift similar to Lake Turnover. All that mucky stuff on our collective lake bed is rising to the top for sunshine and fresh air, while all that was floating-peacefully-and-serenely-on- top-of -the-water (like all those old illusions that “everything is JUST FINE”), sunk like a cast-iron boat anchor to the bottom.

Meaning: Everything is NOT fine and it never really was, but we can’t ignore it any longer. Or as resident locals might say to disappointed anglers: “Welcome to our Collective Pond….DEAL WITH IT!”

And I’m only talking about the energies, not the events transpiring around the world. While the “energies” did not create the situations that led to the social unrest anywhere, they DID contribute to the intensity of the responses and the volatile climate for even greater disruption and reactivity.

But as difficult as this moment in time appears to be, it is still just “a moment in time.” Even lake turnover only lasts so long before the water layers restabilize into their respective temperature zones and life can then resume again.

So my suggestion at this time would be to look for the outlet to pull the plug on your personal blender and just let your life settle back into this new order, with your new clarified awareness and those new opportunities ahead to restart your intentions for a better and more enjoyable new year.

Most of all try to remember that it’s a “timing” thing—all this collective chaos. We’re shedding our illusions right and left, and that’s never pretty or pleasant. But it will get better because that’s what these collective energy-inversions are all about: bringing bottom content to the light of day for exposure, and for purification of those putrid residues left behind from days long past, but not forgotten.

Maybe it’s now time to let them go and move on with a clearer focus and a better plan for positive social change.

Maybe it’s time for constructidialogve dialogues, rather than angry monologs.

Maybe it’s time to listen rather than speak, and to hear rather than demanding to be heard on any side of barricades, wherever those barriers might be to peaceful discussion.

We’ll get through this chaotic time period. But we have to do it together or we can’t move forward, because forward is the only direction of change. That makes it the important one.

That Thankful Time of Year

Gratitude and appreciation are good anytime, but around Thanksgiving it becomes very popular, if not culturally mandatory. And that’s fine.

I feel much gratitude every day, so this day and the day that turkeys fear the most, are simply additional reminders of how fortunate so many of us are to live safely in warm dwellings with ample food on our plates; and to be thankful also for occasionally having others around us to share in our abundance.

Remembering fun holiday times with family and with friends, whether still present or long since departed, is to relive laughter spilling over at the dinner table like too-full wine glasses raised for toasting good fortunes and continued comradery. These simple times are perhaps the best memories we will ever retain throughout our lives.

We sit, during this joyful celebration of a meal well-shared, impatiently waiting with forks poised mid-stab, to hear “just one more” of those boisterously proclaimed, long-winded wishes made for continued happy times together and for the promise of even better tomorrows for us all.

So for those who gather close with friends and family during this festive season, or for those who may shed a tear wishing that they had them around to be together again, may your holiday wishes be all that you have ever imagined, and may they indeed become all that you ever hoped them to be.

But if those “good memories” aren’t exactly what your Holidays ever were, then it’s time to make some good memories to replace the old not-so-good ones!mad mags family dinner

Keep in mind “creating new GOOD memories” is always an option, for as the adage goes: While you can’t choose your family, you CAN choose your friends. And good friends can make for a good chosen family!

It’s really about caring and sharing whatever you have, and about seeing who can make the biggest fool of themselves for everyone else’s enjoyment.

It doesn’t matter that at your cooked-at-home, holiday-dinner gathering the mashed potatoes might be a little lumpy, or the green bean casserole doesn’t exactly look like the picture showed it should.

What matters is that you thought enough of the people who are gathered there with you during that meal, to share what you had with those that you cared about the most.

So here is wishing blessings, joy, and good fellowship to all. Make some fun holiday memories to savor over the years to come—just to spill them mercilessly on next year’s tablecloth.

Healing vs. Curing

In the healthcare profession, if you are fond of playing in quicksand, take on the subject of Healing vs. Curing. How are they similar? What are the differences? And what does it even mean to heal someone or to cure someone?

Many of us who work in complementary or alternative healthcare fields try very hard to stay out of those boot-sucking sands that create instant responses both pro and con for what we do professionally and how that relates to the “healing vs. curing” controversy.

While I’ve personally seen amazing improvements happen for many of my clients, I cannot make claims to be responsible for them, either with REIKI or hypnosis. And that’s fine. I leave it up to the people that I treat to decide if they feel a benefit from whatever service I provide. I don’t have a problem with that aspect.

However, because I’ve been on a fairly spiritual path for the last 30 years—a belief in a Higher Power and a greater purpose for our existence, sort of thing, I have a broader perspective on what “healing” entails.

As for “curing,” I personally think that word is a misnomer. People talk about being “cured” for many diseases only to have them redevelop a year or two later. My opinion is that the person may have been momentarily “cured”—all wrongs made right for the present situation; but they likely weren’t “healed” of the root cause of the problem, or the problem would not reoccur.

To me, that is perhaps the greatest difference between the two: healing deals with root cause of the problem to eliminate it by addressing the client’s body, mind, and soul issues; while curing deals with a counter remedy that neutralizes the ill-effects or symptoms of the immediate problem while providing some pain relief and the appearance of health improvement. To some, this might sound like the same thing, but to me it isn’t.

In my March 5th post of “Coming Back into Balance” I began with “Wellness is a term we use to describe a state of physical, mental, and emotional health. For those who look even deeper into illness causation, we could also include spiritual health in the mix.”

From my perspective, spiritual health is a major factor in truly “healing” a person’s root cause of illness or pain, because again from my perspective as a seasoned/experienced REIKI practitioner and hypnotist, the reason for the need to BE healed stems from the person’s issues that he or she came into this life to explore.

I believe that the mental, emotional, physical and spiritual bodies are united in providing the very challenges for that person to investigate in an attempt to create greater awareness of the deeper root-cause of an illness, an injury, or a malady which may be related to unresolved issues from a previous life, or may simply be chosen in Spirit World before incarnating onto Earth plane as the best way to spiritually evolve in the shortest amount of time for that person.

I know, …..and I have said this myself during my own grueling life ordeals, ….it is so hard to imagine that we would pre-plan and agree to some of the things that we go through while here. But when I take clients to Spirit World to explore why their present life is the way it is, that is what they often discover—their ordeals were either pre-planned for the most part to be this particularly challenging way, or they were retaining energy-residues from other lives that are creating part of the present-day problems.

This is one of those “you probably won’t believe it until you experience for yourself” things, so I am not trying to convince anyone that this is true. All I know is that this is what I have repeatedly experienced with my clients to the point that I DO believe what they are describing to me when they are hearing the explanations from their guides and their Higher Self while in their past-lives or in Spirit World.

Why it feels like truth for me, is because as an energy-worker, I find that illness and malady are often symptoms of a core imbalance in the spiritual body, represented by the Energy Body, which is the level where I usually work.

When I look at a person for the root cause of why he or AxialtonalFiberAlexGreyshe came to me, I am far more focused on energy blockages and energy inflammation areas, or unusual energy configurations in their energy field. And for a better concept of what the energy body entails, I will include an Alex Grey picture and hope he isn’t offended in my doing so.

This picture shows the energy meridians—rivers of energy flowing over the body that acupuncturists use for needle locations, the chakras—the center-body, colored energy funnels that act as transducers to transform energy-at-large into more utilizable energy for the organs and glands of the body, and the overall outer body energy field which is both a series of matrices (web-like frameworks) and opaque substances (more gas-like in appearance) between the matrix layers. As a REIKI practitioner and energy-worker, these are my main areas of focus.

While a single post on this subject is incapable of conveying the two main points I would like to explain in more depth, for now I’ll at least state them for later expansion:

One, we are far more than we believe ourselves to be. We extend beyond the physical limits of our body, and our minds are inseparably connected to our spiritual core-soul in ways that are hard to even conceptualize—although Alex Grey gave a good basic starting point;

And two, those core issues that we come to Earth plane to explore and experience first-hand, are the very reasons that illness, injury, and malady exist. Those are the exploration methods we use to realize our true-selves and our true capabilities.

They are the testing grounds for gaining self-awareness and appreciation of the greater scope and unlimited potential we actually possess as “spiritual beings having an earthly experience.” I see this with every Past-life and Spirit World Exploration that I conduct.

Knowingly or not, we are here for a deeper reason, and often the reason is to learn the many facets of love, including compassion and forgiveness.

The emotional dichotomy of love is that if you let yourself feel love, then eventually you will know great loss; and if you interact with others, you will definitely need to learn compassion for them and eventually forgiveness for yourself and the others throughout your own life-dramas.

In essence, if you’re a television frog, there is humor in the claim that it isn’t easy being green; but in a less humorous vein, if you’ve ever experienced some form of deep pain: whether mental, emotional, physical, or spiritual, you know all too well, that it ALSO isn’t easy being human.