The Quest for What We Lack: Part Two—Family Reunions

reunion-cartoon.jpgTis the season for family reunions and family gatherings in general, involving picnics and potlucks and people you seldom see all gathered together playing nice (sort of) for a few hours.

It’s a time to clamp your jaw shut and hold your clever comebacks at the rude, intrusive, in-your-face questions—a time to curb your overwhelming desire to tell off the perpetually-mouthy aunt or the ever-drunken uncle (or role-play vice-versa)—a time to not snap at the obnoxious kids in your face all vying for attention and exuding their excessive “look at me-ness”—a time for staring with slack-jawed disbelief at all those people gathered together in this park to whom you are supposedly related and your saying aloud to yourself, “Uh-uh….NOPE…..that’s not in my genes—NO way—NO how!”minioncircus.jpg

But you know that they really are.

And these are the better thoughts you’re having at that yearly, quality “family-gathering time.”

The worse thoughts throbbing at your temples during the group get-togethers are the “family secret” thoughts that make you watch Uncle Sonny or Uncle Dicky as closely as possible, especially when little ones are near him—watch for the tell-tale enticement tricks he may have once used on you or your siblings—the “Come over here, little Suzy. Come and sit on Uncle Sonny’s lap.”  Or the little tickle games, he used to play. Or the little grabs he made when others weren’t watching and you were too unclebadtouch.jpgshocked or scared to say “Don’t do that!”—the little secrets he told you to keep just between you and him—and “Oh, here’s a shiny, silver dollar just for you if you don’t say anything to your mommy about us.”

Oh yes.  I know about Uncle Sonny and Uncle Dicky, both personally and in the late-night tales from female-adolescent slumber parties—I’ve heard the warnings not to be alone with such-and-such—to ignore such-and-such’s enticements or “games”—to watch at the next gathering for how Uncle Dicky avoids certain older adolescent family members that he once used to excessively dote on.  Yes, Uncle Dicky is a family secret—except he’s not really a secret. Nor should his behavior ever be one.

Yes, these folks, no matter how questionable some might be, are all a part of our genetic pool. Perhaps some families have a few more perversion-inclined members than others, but all families have at least one or two of them, just as all families have members who are openly addicted to drugs, alcohol, and porn.  These aren’t things that you should ignore and pretend aren’t affecting others, because they definitely do affect them—especially the vulnerable, young ones.

I’ll honestly admit that I’ve always hated family mazine not coming.jpggatherings—both with my own family and my long-time friend’s family.  The ones I’ve personally participated in, especially from childhood, were cringe-worthy for me and felt downright alien. Not only did I NOT feel like a part of that group—I wasn’t sure I ever wanted to be considered a part of them.  So I have a hard time relating to the positive experience of family reunions that others crow about.

After seeing a few sets of my friends’ family-reunion photos on Facebook, I was thinking intensely about this family-gathering hostility that I still harbor; and the question arose in my mind wondering what about this family-reunion experience appeals to the folks who DO like to attend them?

I know old folks like to gather all the little chicks around and say “See what I did with my oldfolkreunionlife?!!!  Here they are—right here! You all came from ME! Aren’t I proud? Look what I did. I made ALL of YOU!”

I get that part. I’ve heard older folks say that very thing as justification for why we were all torturing ourselves playing nice for parents and grandparents during that required togetherness time.

And many folks feel that family reunions carry on traditions and ancestral heritage—long sheets of genealogical trees are spread out on picnic tables while gnarled fingers trace lineage from some distant relation in some far away land—an ancient relative who once traveled the greatest adventure of his and her life by coming to America to create this new life here for all of us—even for Uncle Sonny and Uncle Dicky, bless their pathetic, perverted hearts.

Once in awhile, the old folks exclaim with glee queentree.jpgpointing at the far-right tree branch, this part of the family tree produced some genuinely PERFECT fruits—real peaches who made the perfect peach marmalade or jam and produced the PERFECT offspring themselves who did likewise, etc..   “Look what this branch over here produced—all these great people—they are all relatives of ours! Look how successful or prominent they were/are.”

Implied, of course, is that that branch’s success meant that the entire tree trunk must have value. And likewise, so do we—even if we can’t see it materially at this time, but we know that one of our future direct ancestors might prove us worthy of having existed at this less-than-ideal time of us personally. It gives us hope for our future redemption.

I guess our weakness as human beings is that we long for connection to others—long for belonging to the greater tribe—long for some verification of our existential validity. Genealogical tracings seem to give some folks great comfort.  I can acknowledge this fact, but I’m also not maxinespeakstruthone of those folks.

“We carry their bloodline,” we say if they are positive role models for us; and if they aren’t we say, “Must have been some overnight fling with a fly-by-nighter that slipped into our lineage. They aren’t really OUR kin.  We sure don’t claim them.”  (Ever think that on someone else’s lineage tree, they don’t claim you either?)

So while I do understand that some folks really get into family reunions, to me it is another one of those quests to determine what it is that we lack in ourselves that we try to find in others and in their familial relationships to us.  What hollowness within us do we keep trying to fill in our search for definable connection to our heritage and bloodline?

disfunctionfamily56.pngAnd when we occasionally run across our own version of an Uncle Sonny or an Uncle Dicky, do we likewise just shake our heads and say “Nope!  Not in MY family tree!”

Or do we risk alienation from the family to do something about it, and make the family secrets stop?

I shouldn’t even have to ask that question.

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“If Not Now, Then When?”

(Thanks to Tao & Zen on  May 25  for this posting from Lama Surya Das in 1994)

(I personally align to no particular religion, but am open to quality spiritual thought. I like Buddhism for its psychological depth and self-examination aspects. I like Hinduism for its ancient Vedic Seers (as well as more modern saints) who were capable of parting the veil obscuring our perceptions on this life. I like agnostics who claim that we can’t possibly know God based solely on our limited comprehensions. And I especially like the wisdom of our own Higher Self aspects that define our life experiences within the context that this human vehicle is capable of understanding.  To me, this article expresses all of those ‘likes’ by simply discussing Dharma—the way of awakening to one’s fullest potential.)

“Buddhist meditation is the heart of the path of awakening. It is called Dharma… the way of awakening to one’s fullest potential, in Western terms.buddhamedpic5.jpg

‘Awakening from what?’ you might ask. Awakening from the sleep of semiconsciousness, the dream of delusion. Awakening to enlightenment, illumination, freedom, nirvanic peace, inner peace as well as outer peace.

This is a path that we travel. It is not a dogma or belief system that we need to accept. In fact, as a very wonderful wise friend of mine, an American lama, once said, “It doesn’t really matter what we believe. It only matters what we do and are.”

I found that interesting. In Buddhism we usually say it doesn’t matter what we do, it matters how aware we are. It shows that the outer and inner are totally inseparable. It is what we are that counts, but that is what we do, actually. Our inner state shows up in our behavior…

If we practice this path, we experience the fruits, the results. Each of us innately has that Buddha potential or Buddha-nature, enlightened perfect nature.

Not just in us, like a needle in a haystack, so hard to find; rather, it is us, just waiting to be realized fully, or actualized. So this path of meditative practice, of self-inquiry, of cultivation of awareness is a practice path that we travel ourselves. Not a dogma we need to believe.

This meditative practice is like a mirror to help us see ourselves, to better know ourselves, thoroughly — our true selves, not just our superficial personalities and conditioned social selves, our persona, but our true nature, our true selves. To unfold and realize that is possible. That’s what we call awakening the Buddha within.

An ancient rabbi, Hillel I think, said, “If not you, then who? And if not now, when?” If you are not the Bodhisattva, a selfless spiritual activist or hero serving the welfare of beings, who will be?

And if not now, when? This is a call to action–not just worldly, compulsive busy-body-like activity, but a call to Buddha-activity, enlightened activity, enlightened living… ifnotnowwhen7.jpg

Not just living wisdom from the eyebrows up, totally cerebral and intellectual. Rather, embodying truth and living it.”

~ Lama Surya Das ~ Excerpts from “Dharma Talk,” October 24, 1994; Cambridge, MA.

 

“Blowciferousnous”

There.  I’ve created the perfect descriptor for politicians who try to cash in on tragedies just to get their own mugs on the evening news and to hear themselves “blowfuscate” about flagrant injustices occurring near them while pushing their own tainted agendas that helped create the very situation they are now railing against.  Most politicians in today’s world are nothing more than “blowciferous.”3ofhtenotsamekind.jpg

Political blowhards like to hear themselves talk—a lot! And they really prefer a captive audience like they can garner at press briefings after the latest school shooting. Senators, governors, the president—they all line up to so sadly address the cameras with meaningless platitudes and empty promises for a better tomorrow than today had unfortunately turned out to be.

Vociferousness is what they offer—a vocal outcry for pseudo-reform that isn’t really reform at all—just meaningless noise from a propagator whose sole purpose was to appear at the news conference itself—not to help those in the aftermath who are genuinely scared or are grieving with deep loss—but to step in front of the gathered crowd and act like they are taking charge of the situation, when instead they are the very people who have helped to create it.

Blowhards obfuscate—they shout their indignation to obscure the situation’s genuine meaning and manipulate the truth of what has actually occurred.

Blowciferous politicians bewilder their listeners with coarse banality and unintelligible logic. They portray themselves as champions for social change, when of course, they are just the opposite.  Status quo serves them far too well to support meaningful change in our society and culture.

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Any tragedy deserves heartfelt sympathy, as do the people who are most affected by the loss of loved ones. To them there are no words that can ease the depth of their pain—no “our hearts and prayers go out to the families” bullshit spoken far too frequently and with less and less conviction each time repeated.

And absolutely NO ONE deserves self-serving politicians trying to cash in on the latest school shooting with no other remedy for protecting our kids than to “arm the teachers.”

In my humble opinion, NRA-loving politicians should be careful with those suggestions.

If you arm enough teachers as the primary solution to our most serious social problems, you might not be around long to witness the result of your actions because teachers are already pretty fed up putting their own lives on the line day after day—without receiving combat pay.  Even teachers have limited patience when their elected officials refuse to do their jobs.

The real solution:  Don’t add more guns to schools!

Make the change at the ballot box—change representatives.  Eliminate gun lobbies. Stop celebrating the gun culture.

It’s time for meaningful social change and time for a new breed of representatives of peace-loving people.

No more “blowciferous” politicians!  Tell them simply: “Do your job or be thrown out.”

And then actually DO IT.giffordsquote.jpg

The Cultural Tsunami Begins

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This is what real cultural change looks like: teenagers taking back their futures from adults who are too self-focused to care about them.

This massive, collective movement only happens once every 5 or 6 decades, but it is definitely happening now; and I

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predict that this wave, along with the continuing women’s movement, will bring BIG changes to American politics—and more importantly, it will bring BIG changes to Congress.

If you watched much of it yesterday, you had to be impressed with the poise, grace, and determination on those stages around the nation—articulate youth vowing to bring massive political changes in November. This should be very interesting the next few months if Congress continues to sit on its hands.

Tyoungboymfol.jpghe NRA might hope this movement will lose steam after yesterday, but I see them only amping up to larger venues with larger cheering crowds.  Funding will pour in.

And this united movement is doing it with peaceful protest, which is how you really make a shift higher in consciousness.

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This is exciting!

 

Creating a NEW Mythology for a New World

https://www.discover.hayhouse.com/inka-prophecies-of-end-of-time-movie/

villoldocredtialsJust saw Alberto Villoldo’s movie from Hay House on the Inca Prophecies, ….which I believe I’ve seen a version of it awhile back, so what I was hearing today was not new to me.

I’ve had shamanic training a decade ago, and am quite familiar with all of Villoldo’s books and teachings, etc., and felt that this subject matter and the message of the film was expected and appropriate for this time period in the history of our world and culture.

But to me the most important thing to take from this “End of Time” message is that it is now TIME to create a new Mythology to birth and support a NEW WORLD. The OLD world might be ending but the NEW world is only just beginning. That is the important thing on which to focus.

There albertoand shamans.jpgare many aspects of shamanic healing and shamanic theory that I think are useful and helpful to establishing proper context of life as we think that we know it: information on the energy body—the energy imprints in our fields—the choosing your personal destiny—the personal soul retrieval aspects and the removal of things not you from your body and energy field—the past-life residues still lingering—the ancestral curses and genetic predispositions toward certain human weaknesses or situations—the connection to spirit world and to the earth herself—the list could go on and on.

In fact, there are many benefits and ways of framing the world around us within the modern day shamanic world view, so to me, modern shamanism (theory and practice) is a beneficial paradigm to help contextualize our experiences.

The aspect of shamanism that I consider less helpful is an adherence to assessing the experiences we have within the original ancestral context that a particular culture prescribes. As we gain knowledge and wisdom we need to refine our beliefs of the “known,” the “unknown but knowable,” and the “unknowable”—which is beyond our present egyptian knoweldgecapabilities to grasp even minute aspects of what is occurring. These three categories of knowingness have expanded over the years.

If you doubt that humanity’s personal knowledge and beliefs have changed in 3000-6000 years, then take a modern physics class and see how far your everyday working knowledge helps you in comprehending the workings of the most sophisticated electron microscope in operation today or in understanding the functions and purpose of the Hadron Collider.

Or maybe you should write new code functions for your computer—sure, go computprogrammer.jpgahead—do it. Some folks can do this—they have that specific knowledge, but most can’t.  These are specialized knowledge bases with theories and practices that stretch our understanding of what composes the world around us and how we can interact with/utilize that knowledge to form NEW beliefs about who we are as a species and as an advancing culture. Those newer knowledge bases pave the way for our technological future.

To me, the important shamanic connections are those that realign us to who we truly are alexgrayimagebodyat our spirit core—the interconnected Universal energy units expressing themselves in many life forms. When we recognize and celebrate that interconnectedness—that loving, unifying energy—then we truly know ourselves in all our many life forms or spirit expression forms.

When we don’t recognize our interconnectedness with all of life, is when we lose our way—is when we feel disconnected and unstable, or even unsure as to why we are here.

When we continue to tell our tribal, creation myths filled with group exclusions and blame, or where we emphasize believers feeling guilty and shameful for things they haven’t even done, then that’s when we miss the entire point of our being here together.

So I do agree with Alberto and the Inca wise people, that our only way forward is to create a new mythology for birthing a NEW WORLD.newworldtheory.jpg

We need a new narrative to follow. Let’s create new hope around NEW beliefs of unity and the desire for peace.

And NOW is the time to create it so it can unfold with our purest intention and greater hopefulness for our peaceful co-existence alongside each other.

We Are What We Think

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Saw a great image on Facebook this morning, and it reminded me to clear my mind of those less-than-desirable thoughts over our present political situations, including the latest presidential chicanery.

I need to keep those negative suggestions for remediating the overall situation out of my head now and always. They are not helpful to me or to the state of our nation as it struggles to recognize the constitutional threat so blatantly declaring dictatorial powers over freedom of press, judicial branches, and foreign policy.

So what is helpful in that regard?

That’s a really good question.truthred.jpg

  • I think TRUTH would be extremely helpful to the overall situation—if we could be certain what that TRUTH actually was.
  • I think being aware of how easily some people allow themselves to be manipulated by others, would be helpful to them, but then they would also have to be willing to NOT be so easily manipulated the next time. That takes remedial work.
  • I think training people to think independently of public opinion in general and use critical analysis skills to assess situations that actually affect them, would be very effective to determining that truth. But people would have to want to think for themselves—and not everyone does.

That’s probably the hardest aspect for me to understand. Blindly believing a pathological liar and the news network that promotes his propagandistic tripe, is NOT helpful (and is almost beyond my capability to comprehend why that is happening), but then THAT is why I need to clear my mind, because as the image above reminds me, “with our thoughts, we make the world.”

And the world engulfing us at present—the one that I’m trying so hard not to have negative thoughts about, is the world in which we live.

But it is NOT the world I wish to manifest for myself or “make” with my thoughts, nor is it the world I want to call MY creation.

So what should I be thinking?

  • We need broad-based discussion on constitutional rights and liberties.
  • We need social media groups to declare secure information zones for TRUTH and FAIRNESS in advertising.
  • We need to get Big-Money out of the political process—all aspects of it. Even net neutrality is under assault by Big-Money interests as led by the White House.
  • We need congressional protection for consumer-protection groups.
  • We need people who are actually willing to stand up to power and say “NO! Not on my watch!” We don’t need congress members who instead cater to their well-endowed donor list, because if you can be bought—you shouldn’t be in congress.

usconstitutionThe world I wish to manifest is a fair and equitable place with equal opportunity for everyone, just as our United States constitution demands.  Oh wait, …that means there is already a legally binding document in place to provide lawful actions and treatment for all citizens?

 

Maybe we just need some folks with the courage to enforce it.

So what I should be thinking is that we DO have those people right here, right now who are enforcing our US Constitution and protecting all of our rights as US citizens and who are removing threats to our nation and to our liberties.

In other words: Go Mueller!

But please do it soon to help create our better world. It’s hard to hold a higher state of mind in the present one.

IGNORANT–and PROUD of It

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I was truly hoping to find an actual T-shirt with that slogan on it, but I guess the cap (how appropriate is this?) will have to do.

Day after day I listen to the rantings of a narcissistic, pathological lunatic on national television–spouting one lie after another–even lies that lie about lying, and I wonder what on earth is going on in the heads of at least a third of the populace out there who still support him.

I finally decided there wasn’t anything I could even comment on here so I’ll just fill the rest of the post with the comments of others.

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ignor bliss

proud to be ignor

You bet.

“P to be I”

Pass it on to the next generation–if there is one.