One Last Chance to Visit 3 Presenters from the “Understanding Narcissism” Summit

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Just saw the email from Tami Simons (Sounds True) on a last chance to hear Caroline Myss’s presentation that I wrote about earlier, ( https://content.soundstrue.com/understanding-narcissism-summit-encore?utm_source=bronto&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=C191116-UNS-Sell4&utm_content=Myss,+Hanson,+and+Neff+-+Free+Encore+Presentations&_bta_tid=09528543415476418810300132756200661561082200615837475413618082489837536028413298474285896175960726012765&_bta_c=azpcfyz2d505smzjcvmh15bka8yxt),  as well as two additional presenters, one of which I am reviewing here today.

This one is called “Healthy Confidence” by Rick Hanson, PhD.  Initially I didn’t understand (or appreciate) why Rick’s focus was on looking for a healthy approach to milder aspects of narcissism. So today when I listened again, I did so with the consideration that for some reason Tami and Jeffery thought that out of the 20 presenters listed, not only Caroline was offered again (which I easily 4dbb3d925440f266e9f3a71eaca87e9c.jpgunderstood), but also offered again for some reason was Rick Hanson’s presentation which to me represented the counter argument for considering mild forms of narcissism as building blocks for establishing a sense of solid self-esteem.

Then I listened more closely to what Rick was actually stressing here and he sounded very “Dr. Joe Dispenza” to me—more about healing yourself by holding the higher love-frequency emotions and using positive reinforcement to establish new patterns of brain function.  Then it made sense why he was offered as an encore. It was a positive presentation of helping others to help themselves in terms of self-worth.  Here are a few quotes:

“It’s about narcissism vs. self-worth—helping people develop (constructive) concepts of true self-worth to help those (more destructive) narcissistic tendencies fall away. Narcissists have a hollowness inside—an emptiness that they keep trying to fill with external recognition and a fair amount of self-preoccupation.  …”

He researched mother-toddler pairs and how those interactions created the solidity or lack-thereof in early childhood development.  “ …dismissive or indifferent early-childhood care-givers often created the void felt by infants that later led to excessive self-focused behaviors…”  It involved negative enforcement for undesirable infant behavior rather than a positive approach to desirable behaviors. … meaning, caregivers ignoring crying, disruptive behaviors, etc.

“It’s not abusive parental behavior, as it is simply a behavioral modification style that the parent believes is necessary and beneficial to the child and family in the long run, but which actually creates a feeling of unmet needs in the infant and child. … the child has yearnings for personal connection and love—to feel cared for and appreciated…these are normal human needs that are then met or unmet by the style of the caregiver. …

“Feelings of low worth and insecurity lead to self-preoccupation of feeling inadequate or insecure that push away the needs of other people in favor of fulfilling their own.  Overt narcissism is an endless pulling of social supplies from other people to fill that hole in the heart. …

“How do we grow healthy self-confidence? …How do we heal that old pain of never being good enough or adequate enough? … (Hungry ghost stuff). …

“Self-directed neuro-plasticity ….any kind of lasting change psychologically must be your-neurotransmitters-and-.jpgthrough lasting change physically. We become less demanding of others…we can be in relationships without making it all about ourselves. … especially create changes in the nervous system and the brain that make lasting learning… neurons that fire together wire together… help the experience leave a lasting physical experience behind to provide a memory that fuels our desirable behavior change.  …We become active agents of our own process of healing and transformation … Have the experience and enjoy it—really enjoy it—help those neurons form physical structures of brainwave patterns.  Stay with a positive experience for a few breaths to help it solidify in your brain. … somatic experiences—body sensations help us retain the benefits of the experience.  It is a rewarded feeling—we are being positively reinforced about our experience and it releases dopamine and serotonin in the brain.  Those ‘feel good’ chemicals released into our bloodstream that helps us feel good about ourselves.  …

“When we feel our worth, it represents something that we feel is true. We recognize it as a positive experience—we feel good about it. See it—feel it—internalize it. …

“Four major sources of self-worth (or self-confidence)—how you fill yourself up to feel good about yourself despite what others might think about you:

  • The 1st is to feel ‘cared about or caring’, …authentic experiences of warm-heartedness or altruistic love.index.jpg
  • 2nd is recognizing your own good qualities—natural talents, disciplined, hard-worker, perseverer, etc.
  • 3rd is experiencing and recognizing your true nature deep down—wakefulness, goodness, lovingness, Buddha-nature, childlike innocence, delight in existing, good wishes toward others, wishing to help others,
  • 4th is forgiving yourself, …self-compassion, healing shame, letting go of criticism, pardoning yourself but taking accurate responsibility for your actions and then moving forward in positive ways toward a better way of being.” ….

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Jeffery: “How does this process soften narcissistic tendencies?” 

Rick:  “I’ve seen when people do this simple receiving practice of filling themselves with love and positive experience, they feel ‘more full’ inside, it lessens their craving for unmet needs, and tames craving of needing the opinions and acceptance of others.  They feel less a sense of deficit—of something missing because that person has then learned how to self-fulfill themselves with positive feelings of true self-worth. …”  

Jeffery:  “…so you don’t have to reduce narcissistic tendencies, you simply have to build a greater sense of true self-worth?”

Rick:  “With therapeutic help and cultivating a larger shift in perspective, it helps to regulate the ‘need factor’ of how we tend to use others for fulfilling own sense of worth.”

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Okay. That is my quick-take of Rick Hanson’s presentation and his professional opinions as a practicing psychologist and a therapist, and to some degree I assume his techniques may be successful with those who have milder narcissistic tendencies, but with those who are severely narcissistic and primarily self-focused, I just can’t imagine that this treatment is truly and lastingly effective.  But again, that is just my opinion, and what do I know anyway. … 🙂

But I do agree with giving a child a healthy sense of self-worth, and in defining what the difference is between narcissism and actually creating a healthy sense of self-worth.

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To that end I could more easily agree with Dr. Kristin Neff who was also offered on the page, on the ‘difference between self-esteem and self compassion’ and the importance of standing up for oneself against a malignant narcissist.

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Lee Harris on the November Energies

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After listening to this video I feel practically prescient with my article October 21st on “When Things Go Wrong,” talking about the collective energies that we are currently experiencing.  🙂

From how awful the current energies are, to our need to stay alert and pay better attention to what is happening to and around us; even to the necessity to simply be a better listener and be less prone to automatically “react” to everything that we see and hear.

Anyway, I nodded my way through most of his video and I think it’s worth a listen.

[ And what works for me as a re-focuser is during stressful situations, or when I’m feeling extremely agitated or have those uncomfortable, naturally-reactive emotions, is to simply sit down, take a few very deep breaths, close my eyes and say aloud, “I release the energies of __________ (fear, anxiety, sadness, anger, jealousy, pain, etc.—whatever you might be feeling at the time).  I release them completely now.  They do not serve me.”  And then forcefully blow those nasty thoughts and emotional energies out of your mouth at least 3 times.  Then just sit quietly for a few minutes with your eyes closed and see if your attitude has shifted higher. (Meaning: Do you now feel more relaxed and at peace?)   If it didn’t help shift your attitude or your energies, then do it all again—1st the release statements, then 3 breaths blowing out forcefully, and then taking a calm full breath again to relax your body and sitting quietly for a few minutes to see if you notice a change. ]

 Lee’s November video:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FkfRTrX_IDo&feature=youtu.be

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  • CRAZY GETTING CRAZIER
  • IDENTITY SHIFT
  • THE POWER OF LISTENING

 

–CRAZY GETTING CRAZIER. When I was tuning in a couple of days ago about November and beyond, this was one of the messages that I got. The ‘crazy’ in the outside world is getting ‘crazier’ – so if you’re able to constantly reconcile your own feelings and thoughts and separate what’s yours from the crowds – you will be able to stay more balanced, more centered and more able to be part of what is needed during these times.

— IDENTITY SHIFT. Apparently, a lot of us are going through that Identity Shift right now. It’s going to get stronger and louder than ever in November and continue for a good three to six month period. Some of you will be entering into this big Identity Shift now and it relates to your personal power (as I mentioned in the October Energy Update). Those of you that own your power or are taking on your power are about to go through an Identity Shift. That might just look like changes but it can also look like huge upgrades.

–Last but not least on the POWER OF LISTENING. When we’re able to really listen to others in a deep way, we may notice that someone’s words might be saying one thing but their tone and their energy might be saying something completely different. All of us can reach that place where we are feeling a little off or a little off center. The power of listening to others and the power of listening to ourselves is very important. So, do regular check-ins and deeply listen to your answers.

Have a beautiful month everyone!  Big love X  – Lee Harris

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When Things Go Wrong

Yes, we all have them—those times in our life when the normal doings of daily living go suddenly awry: the lawnmower blows a gasket mid yard, the water softener decides to whenthingsgowrongquote67.jpgregurgitate all over the basement floor, a beloved tree blows over in the wind, you are late for work and start to get in the car then notice you have a flat tire, …you get the picture.  It feels like the world is suddenly conspiring against you—and your bank account. 

You could get paranoid about it and start looking over your shoulder like someone or something has it in for you, or you can shrug it off as just some of life’s challenges that suddenly aligned together—all during the same strange week.

Well it does happen that way occasionally, but the other possibility is that there is something you may need to pay more attention to that you’ve been previously ignoring.  What might that be?

Where have you been focusing your energy? That would be the first thing I’d ask myself and I did ask myself that very thing since I’ve just had a week like that.  I’m still trying to make some sense of it.

Personal challenges for us are breaks in status quo—they are often wake-up calls to our consciousness to stay alert and pay more attention to what is transpiring around us because we might be missing something important happening to us or to our current situation.  And what have I determined?

For one thing, these collective energies at present are truly awful. I spend much of the day refocusing myself to be more simply observant and less reactive to people, situations and particularly to the news.  And it doesn’t surprise me that older appliances and machines are revolting now from years of excessive use because stuff doesn’t last forever. But when the overall energies are this chaotically bad—and lower frequency—you can usually expect more things to go wrong around you because conditions are so ripe for them to occur.

My advice for others, as well as for myself: Try not to take it personally—instead just take it in stride as examples of ‘stuff that happens,’ and move through the difficulties one by one until the ‘gone wrongs’ have been rectified.  Don’t fuss, don’t fret, just deal with them one by one until those problems no longer exist.

And know that you are not alone if you’re feeling the tenseness of the collective or the potential for explosive emotions in public settings.  It is simply a part of the energies of this moment in time.

Another suggestion: When you are in social settings, be prepared to be more patient and be more of a listener than a reactive respondent.  Hold your own energies as high as possible for you, and know that ‘THIS TOO SHALL PASS’ though not nearly fast enough for most of us.

Sometimes all you can say to yourself is, “Hang in there. You’ll get through it.”

And then really believe that it’s true.

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Reality Is A Reflection of Beliefs

Upon seeing this, I loved the image first, but the subject matter “What is reality?” naturally caught my attention.  One of the key thoughts in this article by Anatasia Netri is this one: Reality is nothing more than a way of looking at things. Instead of focusing on creating circumstances which don’t change your reality, focus on shifting your perceptions, and watch your reality change.”

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“Why Reality Is A Reflection Of Your Beliefs – By Anastasia Netri

https://blog.sivanaspirit.com/sp-gn-what-is-reality-for-you/?fbclid=IwAR2VQ2mhB5wgWfYpOEkEzJA9ZZbT_rzUsGSFO_Vi9ypCSBXRag1n2VgmBlk

There are two people sitting on each end of a bench. Both people are hungry. At the exact same moment, a person walks up to each of them and hands them an apple.

This is the reality:

One person says “Wow, I was hungry and an apple appeared! Ah, the bounty of the universe. Geez, life really has my back. Thank you!”

The other person says, “All I get is this freakin’ apple? What happens in 10 minutes when I’m hungry again? I’m sick of being hungry. Life sucks.”

Reality isn’t your circumstances. Reality is how life feels to you. Circumstances don’t change that.

Often we hear things like, “Change your thoughts, change your life” or “Change from the inside out.” All these things are true.

We’ve confused reality with circumstances. However, reality is caused by our deep core beliefs about life. If we feel constantly that there’s never enough, and that’s way down in the subconscious, then no circumstance will ever make a dent in that. You can have money, food in the fridge, even some good relationships, but what you’ll feel most of the time is either that there’s still not enough, you’ll constantly worry about losing it, or you’ll even begin to sabotage these things without even realizing it to actually create circumstances that match your belief.

When you believe not-enoughness, what you want is to feel that enoughness and the peace that comes with it. So, you unknowingly look to create that from the outside in but it never satiates that desire for peace, no matter what you do. Reality changes when those limiting core beliefs are identified and examined because anything that’s not true will fall apart under examination.

Reality is a reflection of your beliefs.

Does your reality match what you say you believe?

If you want to change your reality, look at the current one. How does life feel to you? What tends to be your first reaction or response?

Are you trying to create outer circumstances that you think will change your reality?

For instance, If you feel unlovable, does someone else loving you change that on a deep level? If you feel unworthy, does hitting a goal or an accomplishment change that? Or do you feel like you’re just overcompensating? Worried? Stressed?

Begin with the truth. Begin right now, by taking a look at the current reality. Then, ask yourself what this current reality is showing you what you believe. To release false beliefs, they need to be identified.

There’s a wonderful quote by Carl Jung that says:

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”

You’ll not only call it fate, but you’ll call it a reality.

A Course in Miracles defines a miracle as a shift in perception, so imagine this for a moment: imagine how different life would feel if you knew like you knew, like you KNEW that life was working out for you. It wasn’t an affirmation or something you needed to remind yourself of, it was just something you knew, like how you know gravity is real. You don’t have to remind yourself that you aren’t going to fly off into space, you just know it. You can relax about it.

When the core beliefs change, perceptions change, and then, you will live in a reality that feels much more peaceful.

Reality is nothing more than a way of looking at things. Instead of focusing on creating circumstances which don’t change your reality, focus on shifting your perceptions, and watch your reality change. “

 

The Loss of Collective Innocence

Again I’ll mention that I don’t know beans about astrology, zodiastarsconstellations.jpgbut I do know that the correlations between various light sources (direct light from the sun vs. reflected light from all other planets and moons, stars, etc.)  plus their mutually affecting orbits, gravities and counter-gravitational forces on each other, do form verifiable patterns of effect on which astrology bases its theories of planetary influence in the cosmos.  That disclaimer made, I listened to Kaypacha’s “Astrology for the Soul for Sept. 18th, 2019”, and heard this:

We are in the midst of the Great Awakening….  because Uranus is in Taurus for another 6 years.  It’s the end of illusionALL illusion dies—a lot of our dreams and illusions are crumpling down now—falling apart. Was our reality so real after all?  Or was it all a fantasy in our minds? …We’re feeling suppressed and overwhelmed…”   (Everything is feeling so overdone… so heavy.  Is this awfulness that we’re experiencing right now as a collective what LIFE is really about, or is LIFE what we make it?)

He continues:

“We’re all feeling lots of grief now—the need for letting go of the past—Saturn’s been sitting stationary for so long—forcing self-reflection on us…but Saturn is going direct now and taking that past away.   So wake up…what you’ve been doing in the past has created bad karma, so stop doing that bad stuff that damages your living environment.”

To which I wondered ‘Do we even know what “bad stuff” we are doing, consciously or not?’  Some things might be more obvious than others—like climate change, global warming, and ecological disasters. But I’m sure that the deeper psychological effects on us individually are much harder to determine.

Anyway, I’ll list the video here if you want to view it but he raises some interesting points for consideration.

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New Paradigm Astrology

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EDOurPSTe2o&feature=share&fbclid=IwAR3TiYPFXe90ZmcSd0NTbiuGdjyNPkn5JHbX4zhx-CsUv3ic0SgrkEY61ac

When I’m feeling overwhelmed, A victim with no control, I need to get up, get out and shout, If only to hear myself roar.

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We are experiencing, along with stern Father Time standing still, a preponderance of 3/4 squares. The 270 degree square is considered a “crisis in consciousness.” Sun/Moon, Mercury/Saturn, Venus/Saturn, Jupiter/Neptune are all conspiring to make us all more conscious. At some point the question may arise, “Just how conscious do I wanna be?” It’s all about “growing up,” says Saturn. Part of that is the loss of innocence, which can include spontaneity, fun, play, joy, and fantasy/dreams. The “it’s all gonna be OK” can get drowned out by “You are responsible for correcting the situation or it won’t be OK!”

While this is part of the evolutionary process, the truth is, it may not be fun changing our ways, letting go of unconscious behavior patterns, and accepting the responsibility. At times like this it is also healthy to have patience with ourselves, accept that we are striving human beings and feel the loss of innocence and the grief, anger, and pain that may be involved. The north node in Cancer says it’s OK to cry, scream and shout when our toys get taken away. Bottling up our feelings in order to grin and bear it can also have negative impact in the present or down the road. So let out a big roar!”      Kaypacha Lescher

 

How to Create Order from Disorder—Feeling the ELEPHANT

This morning I saw a Facebook post of a video clip of Dr. Joe and his LondonReal interview on how to change yourself and the world for the better. It’s called joeunlockmindpiuc.jpg“UNLOCKING THE HUMAN MIND: How to Rewrite Your Story “  ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Krrd3AwwLqU )  It’s worth a listen.  (Just click thru the ads to get to it.)

Also this morning Alberto Villoldo villaldobloghealingfisrt45.jpgput out his blog post of a personal healing story that was his primary initiatory healing experience in Peruvian shamanism, called:  “TASTING PEACE: MY FIRST EXPERIENCE WITH ENERGY HEALING”

(https://thefourwinds.com/blog/shamanism/tasting-peace-first-experience-energy-healing/?fbclid=IwAR1SiuvaWscOtP0EiY0k12ejFmlmLZU1dXqaWOUn1pgqQip-EEmOOOZiHVo )

While both are quite different in content, they both allude to the ability to change our situations and ourselves by shifting our focus from the material world’s limitations and set patterns of belief into Source’s quantum energy field that both initially creates and then sustains us, because everything that we experience in this life is all about ENERGY and how we exist in our purest state—which is simply as ENERGY itself.

Both viewing options offer interesting perspectives, and both shed light on a subject that for some might be a little hard to fathom, yet it is the basis for life as ‘we know it,’ and as we have ‘yet to know it’.

Whether alive or dead to this physical world, we are still energy units and will always remain as energy units. That energy part of us continues on into infinity because energy never ceases to exist, it simply transforms into other uses for it.

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During this life experience our conscious awareness expands and transforms as we ‘grow it’; and upon our passing from the earth that grown consciousness then uploads to the Greater Source Consciousness.  We are all continually expanding the Greater Source Consciousness—which some would say is simply Source (GOD) exploring itself.

From my personal perspective, I’ve spent the last twenty years as an energy worker of some sort, whether in REIKI or Shamanism or even in hypnosis (because to better understand the subconscious mind is to delve into the ocean of energies where it exists in a myriad of forms).

With each discipline learned, I gained a different perspective on energy healing that allowed me to, as the old parable stated, “describe the ELEPHANT by a committee of 6543blindmenandelephantblind-men”.  If you are unfamiliar with that parable, here is a brief summary: To one blind-person standing at the rear of the beast, the elephant was like a rope because he held the tail. To another blind-person at the front, the elephant was like a coiling snake because he held the moving trunk. To yet another it was a huge boulder (the side), or a large tree trunk (the leg).

In effect, to each blind-person the elephant was something limited in scope and understanding—each part relatable only to that in which they were touch-familiar.  Because they were all blind, no one person by themselves could see the total picture of ELEPHANT because each one was limited to what part they could actually feel before them.

Source energy—the quantum field as it is often called, has presented itself to me over the years like I was one of those blind-people describing that enormous, unfathomable elephant.  REIKI described it one way. Shamanism described it another way, and hypnosis yet a different way.  All healing modalities were effective in how they explored the subject, but none had the total picture of how all those differing techniques actually functioned within the quantum field itself and transformed the unharmonious situations with a client.

Because I’m an ‘I want to know the BIG PICTURE’ type of person, I think this ‘blind-persons’ committee’ is still out on how Greater Source Energy (GOD) or the Quantum Energy Field actually works.

But I did conclude that after twenty years in energy work I now better understand the amazing energy healing powers of REIKI by learning a different perspective on energy jamesorschmanquoteenergy43.jpgwork from shamanic healing. Just as I better understand now how shamanic healing can be so effective in some instances after learning the theories and techniques of hypnosis.  In fact to me, it seemed easier and more client-empowered to do things like soul-retrieval and past-life healing using hypnosis, rather than shamanism where I went from being the “healer” in those shamanic-client situations, to simply creating the healing environment for the client to heal themselves using hypnosis.

So to ‘still-inquiring’ me with various forms of energy healing under my belt, the Quantum Energy Field is the same ELEPHANT that you’re feeling around on no matter where you stand, it’s just from one location I’m holding the ELEPHANT’S tail, and the other location I’m holding the trunk.

But no matter what I’m doing in energy work, I still want to see the BIGGER PICTURE—I want to see THE ENTIRE ELEPHANT itself and understand WHY it is standing there so prominently in front of me.  And most importantly, I want to know how best I can utilize ITS presence, because that subject pertains to my inquiries into the nature of reality and the nature of consciousness.  What the heck IS that ELEPHANT? What makes that ELEPHANT what it is?

But back to the video/post shown above, both Dr. Joe and Alberto here are talking about using the quantum field for healing—in effect they are both feeling around on that ELEPHANT—focused in different ways, using different techniques for doing so.

It’s just a very large ELEPHANT.

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Why EMDR and Tapping Work for PTSD Symptoms

I’d been thinking that perhaps I needed to explain a bit more on EMDR and Tapping as to how they actually help alleviate the PTSD symptoms, then this morning I saw this NICABM post on my Facebook site that offers an online course for treating trauma by some of the top trauma therapists in the field.

If anyone is interested, I’ll put it all on here including the website for signing up to hear their experienced spiels first-hand, but I noticed in session 4 that Ogden and Siegel will directly discuss the WHY EMDR and Tapping are effective for treating PTSD:

“… Two distinct signs that your client might have impaired brain integration from trauma

How the midbrain holds the key to the freeze response…”

That’s the very reason EMDR and Tapping do work: The traumatic incident or incidences have NOT been fully integrated in the brain’s processing mechanism. They are “stuck” in the mid-brain which creates the immediate reactivity to similar situations without the rational ability to assess their true safety or danger to the body; and I’ll try to explain that more fully in limited verbiage later.

Anyway, for $97 you can listen to the entire course from NICABM and receive transcripts, etc, from folks who know a lot more than I do.  I’m just making the option available here.

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“What happens in the brain when someone experiences trauma, leaving the nervous system vulnerable to horrific feelings and painful sensations?

We asked this question to the top 5 experts in treating trauma in this brand new, focused short course (And there are 3 CE/CMEs available).

Dan Siegel, MD;  Ruth Lanius, MD, PhD;  Bessel van der Kolk, MD;  Pat Ogden, PhD;  and Stephen Porges, PhD; will get into:

✅  The key part of a traumatized brain that gives trauma such enormous power
✅  How the “survival brain” gets altered after a traumatic experience (and how to look for this in your client)
✅  Two hormones that leave the brain highly vulnerable when traumatic memories are forming
✅  What happens in the brain that makes some clients unable to distinguish threat cues from non-threatening stimuli
✅  One strategy to prevent dissociation and retrain a client’s trauma response
✅  Two distinct signs that your client might have impaired brain integration from trauma”

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“The Neurobiology of Trauma and How to Apply It to Your Work with Clients

( https://www.nicabm.com/program/a2-fb2-brain-trauma-1/?d=fbo.867.1.c&fbclid=IwAR0Alyetl4Xqi0Zgn0a9iWUK9aLkuGFHXxrVMbY304SfKEoB6Skx6esVqx0 )

During a traumatic event, the survival brain can take over and knock critical thinking offline.

To fully help clients heal from trauma, we have to understand what’s happening in the traumatized brain – while the traumatic event is occurring as well as how the client gets held hostage to threat cues long afterward.

The brain is so important to working with trauma that we wanted to create a program that solely focused on how to treat it.

We’ll look at the specific brain areas that get altered by trauma, and how this neutralizes the client’s ability to problem-solve.

5 of the top experts in the world will share how they treat clients who struggle with trauma. This brand new program brings together the sharpest strategies for working with a traumatized brain.”

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So back to my explanation of EMDR and Tapping and why they are effective for treating PTSD:  As I understand it, the brain is a complex of four separate parts stacked on one another in evolutional growth that have specific functions in the body.

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  • The brain stem was the earliest evolution of consciousness and was often called the reptilian brain. (Involuntary nervous system like heartbeats and breathing—pure reaction—eat, sleep, procreate, basic survival.)
  • The limbic system was the next evolution in consciousness and was referred to as the mammalian brain. (Emotions developed—how we FEEL as we react to whatever we experience—emotional response—fear, short-term memory of intense feeling/emotions, hormone producing—the processing point where affecting experiences are sent to the upper brain for classification as safe or unsafe.)
  • The human evolution of consciousness was through the development of the cerebellum and cerebrum which were primarily for memory, language development, reasoning skills, and data analysis abilities (highly developed nerve centers and memory storage systems).

The trauma problem arises when some frightening situations cause extremely fearful responses in us (they scare the dickens out of us), and the pure nerve reactivity of the brainstem hits the midbrain point where the limbic brain emotionally reacts to the situation with extreme fear, and the experience shocks the processing point to such a degree that it fails to register the experience further and disseminate it into the memory storage region of the cortex/cerebrum for analysis and comprehension of what actually just happened.

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See how the thalamus and the hypothalamus sit directly on top of the midbrain region of the brain stem?  That’s where the data processing point of that particular experience gets stuck.  The reactivity to fear is so strong there during that frightful situation that it freezes at that midbrain processing point and that memory sits there unresolved for further assessment by the higher brain. That terrorizing situation is like an awful experience stuck in midbrain that to us feels like it is in perpetual fear reactivity in the NOW, and it can’t be properly assessed as “in the past” because it always feels “in the present” and we are constantly reacting to it even when it’s no longer occurring to us.  That’s what leads to the hyper-alertness of PTSD and the instant over-reactivity to anything even remotely fear-inducing to us.

Anyway, the physical bilateral action of tapping or the physical eye-movement-desensitization utilizes the physical body’s ability to actually help move those ‘stuck in fear reactivity’ memories on into the cortex region for proper filing away in memory storage.  When the ‘once stuck horror situation’ is unstuck and properly filed away where it should be, which is IN THE PAST, the mind can begin to properly assess the horrific experience as it truly WAS, not still presently IS, and move through it with safer and more accurate assessments of what really happened to us.

I mean the memory of the horrific experience will still be horrible, but it will be past-tense horrible, not continually present-tense horrible. And that actually does make a difference in how we can better handle our present experiences and help us to move on with our lives.

Hope the above explanation helps. And you can check out the NICABM offering** listed for some serious detailed options available to you.

** (And yes, these online discussions are therapists training other therapists in how to successfully treat trauma clients, but the more information that you have available to you on how the top trauma therapists in the field best handle trauma-client situations, the better you can choose a therapist for yourself that might utilize these more effective techniques for dealing with your own extreme trauma.

Gathering information yourself on the subject is all about self-empowerment–you can then go into a therapy session armed with that newly-acquired knowledge of what might be happening in your brain’s processing centers and work together with your therapist on healing your mind/memories/reactions, rather than just sitting back in the office chair and expecting someone else to fix what might be wrong in your life. You actually take control of your healing by better informing yourself of your true treatment options.

At least that’s my opinion on gathering all the positive treatment information available to you.)