The River of Feelings

tnhgems45.jpg

“There is a river of feelings within us, and every drop of water in that river is a feeling. To observe our feelings, we sit on the bank of the river and identify each feeling as it flows by. It may be pleasant, unpleasant, or neutral. One feeling lasts for a while, and then another comes. Meditation is to be aware of each feeling. Recognize it, smile to it, look deeply into it, and embrace it with all our heart. If we continue to look deeply, we discover the true nature of that feeling, and we are no longer afraid, even of a painful feeling. We know we are more than our feelings, and we are able to embrace each feeling and take good care of it.”

– Thich Nhat Hanh
Photo: © Yvonne D. Williams

For some reason this Thich Nhat Hanh quote stuck in my head when I read it because I know what he is referring to—I’ve felt it myself—the stepping out of intense feeling, no matter how painful it may be, and simply watching it flow over us as we remain sitting on the bank in silence before the enormity of the water passing through on its journey elsewhere.

If you aren’t sitting a part from it on the bank, that “River of Feelings” is a flow we continually ride—sometimes in a kayak gliding above the water and sometimes in an inner-tube with half our body immersed into it.kayakriverswirl67.jpg

So for us to say that we do not “feel” something emotionally is to say that we are riding the kayak as we skim the waves while still feeling the froth of turbulence. We may bob around a bit with emotion, but we’ve elevated our heads above the water and as long as we remain upright, we know that we won’t drown.

Inversely, when we are immersed in the feeling, we become the feeling and may struggle for our lives; clinging tightly to our inner-tube to keep our heads above water—for fear it drowns us with wave after wave of intense, gut-clenching emotion.

tube on river67Grief is an inner-tube type feeling. So is rage. It’s easy to be swamped when you immerse yourself in those feelings.

Some would say depression is such a feeling, but I believe that depression isn’t really a feeling as much as it is the result of losing the inner-tube completely and accumulating body fatigue from continually treading water without relief in sight.

So what is the difference between riding the kayak and sitting on the bank?

The kayak provides an experiential option for riding the feelings we naturally have during the course of our lives. It gives us buoyancy and distance from the worst of the emotional waves sloshing about us.

The bank is an entirely different perspective on emotional impaction. From the bank you do not participate in the feeling, you only observe it as it comes and goes, and try not to judge its rightness or wrongness; its power or onriverbank45.jpgaffectation on you.  You acknowledge it as it impacts you and note what is being felt, but you let it go—you let it move on and away without clinging to it—without wallowing in it or calling it back to re-experience, over and over.

It’s not easy sitting on the bank and observing your own river of feelings; and sometimes it’s hard to even find a kayak from which to navigate the powerful river of emotions that we feel.  At times when life takes a tumultuous turn for us, we feel fortunate enough to simply have that inner-tube to help keep our heads above the overwhelming waves.

What I think Thick Nhat Hanh was saying in this quote is that observing from the bank (meditation) is the far safer option for dealing with intense feelings, because it allows the greatest perspective on the river of emotion itself that we must experience over the course of our lives.

As humans, we will have good days and bad ones—people will come to us and then leave us through disagreements, grievances or death.

During the course of our lives, we make efforts to achieve or acquire what we do not have, and those efforts are sometimes successful and sometimes not.

We love and we lose love.

We agree and disagree with others, and feel both great joy and great fear at many aspects of life, including our own mortality.

joadriversanger56

But during the course of our lives, that river of feelings flows on and on, over familiar ground or new ground—but it keeps moving onward until we individually feel no more and merge again with the Great Ocean of Consciousness that logs “all feelings” as simply a part of the living experience.

So keep your inner-tube always handy, and find a kayak when you can do so to keep your head higher above the waves; but if possible, try instead the view from the bank for its safer, broader perspective, and simply allow that emotional river to flow on by without judgment or clinging.

I know—easier said than done—but it IS possible to do it. Trust me on this one.

 

Advertisements

Recommending Halpern’s “Deep Theta” for Transcendent Meditation

deeptheta.jpg

Looking for peace amidst the current nonsensical, political storm, I was going through my meditation playlist and ran across some oldies but very effective “goodies;” one of which was Steve Halpern’s “Deep Theta” set.  Very nice indeed!

I highly recommend this “Deep Theta” set (CD or Streaming) for regaining serious quietude.  Lovely tones clear and sooth the mind with beautiful sonic resonance that allows for deep brain coherence.  It’s reminiscent of undulating atop a placid lake on a tubular raft during summer’s warmest embrace.

I’d forgotten how nice that CD/mp3 set was.

If you prefer more melodic phrasing, another nice one to relax into is Halpern’s halperninnerpeace“Inner Peace”.  But the “Deep Theta” set is definitely my choice for reaching a higher level of being. This is a transcendence path. If you want to travel out and beyond your personal boundaries, the DT set is the one in which to listen.

What I’m personally finding more so in the last couple months is that you just have to shut out the external noise to remember who you really are at your soul level—which is far more than the BS we are currently experiencing in physicality.

So get quiet and go soul deep. That’s where you can really change things in your own life, as well as change the world around us. It’s all about higher harmonic resonance and the frequencies that we choose to hold for ourselves. The higher the frequency, the more personal control you have over your own health and the quality of your personal experience.

More on that later.

At present, these “Deep Theta” tones are helping to shift my vibration higher, and I’m sure they will help you to shift your own as well.

Peace.   (Which is the whole point.)

Long Time No Write

There are simply times when one has nothing to say. And if all those who truly had nothing to say would just not say it, we’d have a much quieter living environment. Not to mention there would be far fewer mindless TV shows on the tube.

Maybe there would be less violence if we didn’t feel the need to openly express our unsolicited opinions to others who definitely did not want to hear them, and who also vehemently responded back to us about our “erroneous” beliefs.

Perhaps we’d have less need to form support groups with those who share our views for issues of importance like poverty, human welfare, and the sharing of resources. Maybe there would be less venom in political parties for those who don’t see life exactly the same way that we do.shhhh

Silence may be a virtue, but it is also a necessity at times because when we are so vocally expressing our “side” of an argument we aren’t hearing the other side at all.

And that may make the difference between better understanding the overall situation and simply ignoring those who disagree with us.

Just sayin’.