Dreaming with Our Eyes Wide Open

I’ve mentioned previously that I am a fan of Alberto Villoldo, and over the years I’ve alberto987.jpgappreciated his psychological insights into human nature and his identifying the archetypal patterns we follow in the natural world around us. I also receive his weekly newsletter from The Four Winds Society that he founded (https://thefourwinds.com); and while this partial quote was from a July 2018 email, I kept it because there was importance in properly assessing those three common personal delusions afflicting nearly all of us.

heartshamanbookalberto87.jpg“Releasing in a few short days is my newest book,  The Heart of the Shaman: Stories and Practices of the Luminous Warrior, where I discuss the three common dreams we turn into nightmares.

I share these with you because transforming them is foundational to finding your sacred dream. They are the daydreams we are so convinced are true and cannot seem to wake up from.

Yet, to dream with your eyes open, you must enact your courage to face each of these head on:

  • The dream of security
  • The dream of permanence
  • The dream of love that is unconditional

When you transform these dreams─when you accept that life is ever changing, that your mortality is a given, and that no one can liberate you from a life of fear and insecurity except yourself─the chaos in your life turns to order and beauty prevails.

When you find your sacred dream, the creative power of the universe (known by the shamans as the Primordial Light) becomes available to you to create beauty in the world, and to heal yourself and others.”   —Alberto Villoldo, Ph.D.

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How many of us once believed in those concepts of security, permanence, and relationship love that is unconditional?

As Alberto states above, “They are the daydreams we are so convinced are true and cannot seem to wake up from.”

I think time and age bursts many delusional bubbles, but the daydreamer673trick is to allow our senses to effectively clear without depressing our life spirit, which means we must learn to view life in general less romantically and more realistically.

Ideal states are those levels of human attainment that we may indeed strive toward, but facing the reason for WHY we feel the need to bolster our delusions of an idyllic existence against what actually transpires in our lives, is to confront our deepest fears head on.

When you transform these dreams (of security, permanence, and relationship love that is unconditional)─when you accept that life is ever changing, that your mortality is a given, and that no one can liberate you from a life of fear and insecurity except yourself─the chaos in your life turns to order and beauty prevails.”

I mean, who doesn’t want to feel safe? After all these natural and man-made disasters around the globe, there are so many people in the world right now that would wish for this day-dream of security above all the others.

Who doesn’t want to feel a sense of permanence in their lives—for themselves and for the people they love the most?  It is a truth we can’t deny: people we love do die. We ourselves often face life-threatening illnesses and injuries that can lead to our personal demise. With one natural disaster, life can chew us up and spit us out seemingly at whim because we are mortal beings with limited shelf-life and we don’t last forever in physical form.

Who doesn’t want to personally know and feel unconditional love in their life? Who unconditionallove623doesn’t want to be accepted and appreciated for simply being ourselves, even with all our flaws and warts?  How many relationships are built on this brand of unconditional love? I’m guessing not many because it is hard to give unconditional love to others, let alone expect to receive it from them as well.

Life is hard. Love is hard. Experientially we learn so much by living in a chaotic world, but those lessons are based on successfully surviving with our sanity and our person in tack. That means we need to be well equipped to handle the world we actually must live in rather than the ideal world we once imagined to exist around us.

That also means we must face each day with courage and determination to make it the best possible day for ourselves and for those we love because there are no assurances that it will be as such.

Yes, we can still day-dream for a better existence and actually work toward that life for ourselves and for others around us, but first we must accept the situation realistically for exactly what it presently is THEN make the decision to do our best despite the adversity that we may face in the process.

“When you transform these dreams─when you accept that life is ever changing, that your mortality is a given, and that no one can liberate you from a life of fear and lifefearend34.jpginsecurity except yourself─the chaos in your life turns to order and beauty prevails.”

Yes, it is possible to create the life you desire. Yes, it is possible to surround yourself with loving companions. But we need to do so intentionally and with directed effort to create a better world for ourselves and for each other.

We must live with courage. Live with compassion. Live with eyes wide-open to all the chaos around you, and instead choose your path forward with grace and determination to make it a better place for yourself and for all of us. That is how you “create beauty in the world and to heal yourself and others.”

Live intentionally and in full awareness of your responsibility to bettering life itself. Don’t just expect it to happen.

You have to MAKE IT HAPPEN!

Then you don’t just survive your life’s ordeals—you learn how to thrive in spite of them. That’s when “the chaos in your life turns to order and beauty prevails.”

Living fearlessly in the face of adversity, is when you really learn to live.

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A Life Well-Lived

I knew him for a short time—perhaps a year.  Even upon meeting him, from the start I could see that he was near the end of his journey.  The years had accumulated around lesterfordobit.jpghim and were starting to weigh him down. His walk was hesitant; his navigation abilities less certain.

“You remind me of my sister when she was younger,” he once said to me. I smiled and said ‘thank you,’ having no idea what aspect of my appearance or demeanor was so similar. But I knew his sister was no longer in this world.

I complimented his always-dapper appearance at church. He would often wear the beautiful purple shirt and matching tie with his dark suit. His eyes would smile with delight. He was a compassionate but proud man, and he wore his humanity on his sleeve for all to see.

Yesterday, amidst the rain and snow flurries, he was buried.

During the funeral service, the most moving portions were the testimonials of three of his twelve grand-children—all were young adults—all claimed deep love for him and were clearly products of his careful nurturing. They told tales of grandpa’s many skills and helpful nature; of how he had pitched in during their home repairs and computer problems. Who knew, even in his advanced years, that he was such a computer technician besides being a woodworker and general handyman?

I smiled frequently during their choked-up speeches hearing of his many abilities and caring nature–and even of his earlier motorcycling escapades.  These were all aspects of Lester that I never knew—aspects that you didn’t see beyond his body’s more-current frailty during the short church services that I had attended with him.

After the service the large family all slowly filed past, following the casket as it was rolled out of the church and into the hearse to be taken to the burial area.  We sang “Amazing Grace” to their parting processional, and I thought—Wow, that is the true sign of a life well-lived—how deeply this gentle man had affected those around him, especially his loving, close-knit family members.

Other than peripherally, I may not have truly known and appreciated you, Lester, but your loving family certainly did.

Well done sir!

 

You Are Not Alone

Quote from: Psychic Medium Savonn Champelle

“It is during the darkest moments in our lives that the light shines the brightest and it lets us know that it always was, always is and always will be there. All we needed to do is connect to it, tap into it and led it guide us. Many times during those ‘dark’ moments we can feel abandoned by Spirit or let down because we feel savonnangel.jpgsomething is happening to us, when in reality something is actually being ‘Birthed’ through us and a powerful healing and transformation is taking place ❤ When going through hard times, or ‘dark’ times in your life call out to the Light within you, Call out to your Angels and simply ask what is the healing and transformation that is wanting to happen through me? What is this situation here showing me? Ask them to surround you and lift you up, for you are never alone. Angels are the silent whisper that are often heard moments after asking them your question ❤ You are not alone ”

Seeing Savonn’s sentiments on Facebook this morning, it was an important reminder that this time in which we all are traversing is a tough one for many. Many are facing their own version of “dark night of the soul,” and that is not a pleasant place to visit or linger in for long.

Many have lost loved ones over the past year or two and are still stinging from the pain and emptiness in parts of their lives.

Many are feeling disconnected from life in general and feeling isolated from people that they were once close to and relied upon for support and friendship.

Others are feeling a gnawing in their gut that some part of their lives is dissolving away to nothing and the void left behind will be too overwhelming to accept.

All I can say to you who are feeling these very things is to repeat what Savonn said at the end of his comment. “You are not alone.”  Yes, the Angels are there for all of us, but more than that—we are there for each other as well.

You might feel like you are very alone, but you aren’t—we’re all here.  We’ve all been where you presently stand or sit or lie or wallow or crawl, or curl up into a ball in the corner of the room. We’ve been there also.

I know that I have been, and I know from the story Savonn has told in the past that he also has been there. I don’t know what worked for him, but for myself, I told myself all sorts of things to keep pushing through the darkness back toward the light—like trudging down the dark train tunnel  where you can lighttunnel35.jpgonly see a faint hint of daylight at the end and hope like hell it isn’t the train itself.

Well, it isn’t the train.  It truly is the light. And if you just keep holding on and hanging in there—no matter how trite that sounds—that is exactly what you have to do to get through the tough times in life.

The greatest gift I ever received was the knowledge that no matter what happened to me, I could handle it.  I could get though it—someway—somehow.  I could endure it—I WOULD endure it!   And I did.

I think that is often the purpose of many ‘dark nights of the soul’—to show us what we are really made of—to show us our resilience and our determination to rise after falling—to lift ourselves off the floor when others aren’t there to assist us.  We must learn to do it for ourselves.

And in the process of picking ourselves back up, we realize that we rise stronger than we were before and wiser in many respects because we’ve dropped our delusions about our self-importance and jettisoned our assumptions/expectations for others in our life.timesaretoughyoucan do it

We learn quickly that the only person you can ever truly rely on is yourself—and that is how it must be because no matter how much any other person wants to help you—they simply can’t.  It is something only you can do for yourself.

So know now that no matter how difficult your present situation is, you are gaining great personal knowledge from it. You are testing your own metal in unimaginable ways that will make you stronger, wiser, more compassionate toward others, and far more humble than you ever believed that you could become.

The worth of a life is not measured by the quantity of the days it holds, or the material items it accumulates.  True soul-worth is gauged by the self-knowledge and wisdom gained during the process of living. That’s what you are doing at present—you are gaining hard-won knowledge and higher wisdom on your life journey.

Live with courage, my friends—live with the integrity to be who you truly are as loving individuals—and live with the determination to be the very best YOU that it is possible to be, because that is the ONLY way you can live.  notalone78.jpg

 

The Quest for What We Lack: Part Two—Family Reunions

reunion-cartoon.jpgTis the season for family reunions and family gatherings in general, involving picnics and potlucks and people you seldom see all gathered together playing nice (sort of) for a few hours.

It’s a time to clamp your jaw shut and hold your clever comebacks at the rude, intrusive, in-your-face questions—a time to curb your overwhelming desire to tell off the perpetually-mouthy aunt or the ever-drunken uncle (or role-play vice-versa)—a time to not snap at the obnoxious kids in your face all vying for attention and exuding their excessive “look at me-ness”—a time for staring with slack-jawed disbelief at all those people gathered together in this park to whom you are supposedly related and your saying aloud to yourself, “Uh-uh….NOPE…..that’s not in my genes—NO way—NO how!”minioncircus.jpg

But you know that they really are.

And these are the better thoughts you’re having at that yearly, quality “family-gathering time.”

The worse thoughts throbbing at your temples during the group get-togethers are the “family secret” thoughts that make you watch Uncle Sonny or Uncle Dicky as closely as possible, especially when little ones are near him—watch for the tell-tale enticement tricks he may have once used on you or your siblings—the “Come over here, little Suzy. Come and sit on Uncle Sonny’s lap.”  Or the little tickle games, he used to play. Or the little grabs he made when others weren’t watching and you were too unclebadtouch.jpgshocked or scared to say “Don’t do that!”—the little secrets he told you to keep just between you and him—and “Oh, here’s a shiny, silver dollar just for you if you don’t say anything to your mommy about us.”

Oh yes.  I know about Uncle Sonny and Uncle Dicky, both personally and in the late-night tales from female-adolescent slumber parties—I’ve heard the warnings not to be alone with such-and-such—to ignore such-and-such’s enticements or “games”—to watch at the next gathering for how Uncle Dicky avoids certain older adolescent family members that he once used to excessively dote on.  Yes, Uncle Dicky is a family secret—except he’s not really a secret. Nor should his behavior ever be one.

Yes, these folks, no matter how questionable some might be, are all a part of our genetic pool. Perhaps some families have a few more perversion-inclined members than others, but all families have at least one or two of them, just as all families have members who are openly addicted to drugs, alcohol, and porn.  These aren’t things that you should ignore and pretend aren’t affecting others, because they definitely do affect them—especially the vulnerable, young ones.

I’ll honestly admit that I’ve always hated family mazine not coming.jpggatherings—both with my own family and my long-time friend’s family.  The ones I’ve personally participated in, especially from childhood, were cringe-worthy for me and felt downright alien. Not only did I NOT feel like a part of that group—I wasn’t sure I ever wanted to be considered a part of them.  So I have a hard time relating to the positive experience of family reunions that others crow about.

After seeing a few sets of my friends’ family-reunion photos on Facebook, I was thinking intensely about this family-gathering hostility that I still harbor; and the question arose in my mind wondering what about this family-reunion experience appeals to the folks who DO like to attend them?

I know old folks like to gather all the little chicks around and say “See what I did with my oldfolkreunionlife?!!!  Here they are—right here! You all came from ME! Aren’t I proud? Look what I did. I made ALL of YOU!”

I get that part. I’ve heard older folks say that very thing as justification for why we were all torturing ourselves playing nice for parents and grandparents during that required togetherness time.

And many folks feel that family reunions carry on traditions and ancestral heritage—long sheets of genealogical trees are spread out on picnic tables while gnarled fingers trace lineage from some distant relation in some far away land—an ancient relative who once traveled the greatest adventure of his and her life by coming to America to create this new life here for all of us—even for Uncle Sonny and Uncle Dicky, bless their pathetic, perverted hearts.

Once in awhile, the old folks exclaim with glee queentree.jpgpointing at the far-right tree branch, this part of the family tree produced some genuinely PERFECT fruits—real peaches who made the perfect peach marmalade or jam and produced the PERFECT offspring themselves who did likewise, etc..   “Look what this branch over here produced—all these great people—they are all relatives of ours! Look how successful or prominent they were/are.”

Implied, of course, is that that branch’s success meant that the entire tree trunk must have value. And likewise, so do we—even if we can’t see it materially at this time, but we know that one of our future direct ancestors might prove us worthy of having existed at this less-than-ideal time of us personally. It gives us hope for our future redemption.

I guess our weakness as human beings is that we long for connection to others—long for belonging to the greater tribe—long for some verification of our existential validity. Genealogical tracings seem to give some folks great comfort.  I can acknowledge this fact, but I’m also not maxinespeakstruthone of those folks.

“We carry their bloodline,” we say if they are positive role models for us; and if they aren’t we say, “Must have been some overnight fling with a fly-by-nighter that slipped into our lineage. They aren’t really OUR kin.  We sure don’t claim them.”  (Ever think that on someone else’s lineage tree, they don’t claim you either?)

So while I do understand that some folks really get into family reunions, to me it is another one of those quests to determine what it is that we lack in ourselves that we try to find in others and in their familial relationships to us.  What hollowness within us do we keep trying to fill in our search for definable connection to our heritage and bloodline?

disfunctionfamily56.pngAnd when we occasionally run across our own version of an Uncle Sonny or an Uncle Dicky, do we likewise just shake our heads and say “Nope!  Not in MY family tree!”

Or do we risk alienation from the family to do something about it, and make the family secrets stop?

I shouldn’t even have to ask that question.

At the End of the Day

“How it looks at the end of the day will be the determiner of how effective the changes were.  It’s the historical perspective that appropriately labels big changes.   History defines the major cultural movements and global shifts of consciousness, along with the pivotal decisions made during that time period.” (quoted as mckayquoteday.jpgsome nameless voice on some media device heard on this day)

I was thinking about this very thing this morning when I heard a speaker discussing the importance of our present time period and how we cannot even see that importance from our present mind-state because defining that importance will only be seen in the aftermath of the situation.  In other words, this day itself cannot be determined to be good or bad based on a single moment within the day, it is only “at the end of the day” that we can assess the day’s affect, for better or worse, on our lives.

And likewise it is only at the end of our life that we can decide how well we lived it. Potential means nothing if not realized. Potential means only “might have been,” and who wants to reach the end of life thinking like that?

I can look at my own “might have beens” and ponder the paths not taken, or the stumbles recouped from or the sudden obstacles that changed my direction completely. I can do my own set of “if onlys” if I wanted to—we all can. But we are where we are right now because of choices made at any past moment that seemed like the very best itiswhatitischoice made for our own wellbeing considering our mental, physical, and emotional stability at the time.  We did what we felt was the RIGHT THING to do whenever that was, for whatever reason we felt outweighed all the other reasons to chose a different direction whether made through avoidance of immediate or future punishment, or the promise of immediate or future rewards.

“Two roads diverged” in the present of our existence and in the multi-verse we took them both simultaneously, but in the present-life path that we know we are living, we took only one and are now logging the escapades of our perilous journey. It is from that single-path vantage point that we can now look back on our life with assessments and critiques.

We can ponder the road not taken but we can’t know exactly what would have happened during our trekking over all the unforeseen potholes and jagged rocks lining that “other” road. We can only speculate, and not particularly well given the uncertainty of our existence.

I can look at my own life and say, “I might have been this or that” or “I might have done this or that,” but at the end of the day—I didn’t.  “And that,” according to Frost, “has made all the difference”, or has it made no difference at all? Was it two separate roads simply converging on the same destination (death) or was it two different possible destinations complete with two different likely outcomes?endofdayquote.jpg

At the end of the day, only each of us can decide that for ourselves.

Still Stuck in a Past-Lifetime?

I was listening to a presenter who does some of the same hypnosis aspects that I offer in my own practice—“Past-Life Exploration” and “Life-Between-Lives” experiences.

The presenter was gently explaining to a pltrauma.jpgconfused caller that sometimes the opinions of others might not be as helpful as we wish that they were; and here she was referring to a previous therapist who had told the caller that “she was still stuck in a ‘7-lifetimes-ago’ situation that she could not break out of in this lifetime”.  Hopefully she misunderstood her therapist because that statement was of course, not quite true.

I agreed with the presenter’s response to the misconstruing of what was actually happening to that caller: Whatever you are exploring in this lifetime may have tentacles or energy patterns to other multi-verses and parallel (or past) lifetimes, BUT where you are right now is NOT really about that previous life experience—not at all—you are NOT stuck there in that particular situation—this life experience is all about you recognizing those similar patterns of behavior that you may have exhibited back then (7 lifetimes ago?) that you may be demonstrating AGAIN in the NOW.  You may be stuck in an energy pattern that keeps repeating for you until you clear it, but as for being stuck in that portal windowprevious lifetime itself—NO!  The lingering energy pattern may have originated there in the PL, but you are not actually stuck there in that lifetime.

You are HERE NOW being provided the opportunity to CHANGE that similar pattern of behavior to something more productive for you in your current situation. When I hypnotically take someone to another lifetime, it is to better understand a present-day issue, and to try and heal traumatic energies associated with what might have been created in a past/parallel life situation that still resonates in the present life. Seeing and actually re-experiencing those past-life scenarios with the cast of players who were present then provides the ultimate “example” to a client of how those unproductive patterns of behavior will eventually play out in your present life if you don’t change those same behavior patterns.

I’m sorry if I’m being unclear about any of this, but it is so hard to comprehensively explain much of this more complex stuff that I write about in this blog because one subject is often interconnected with another, such as: Past-lives, Parallel-Lives, Spirit-World—while all within the context of our physical-reality experience—let alone applying them to the concept and context of possibly living in Virtual Reality or HSdatabase of plSimulated Reality, where the applicability of those subjects would make more logical sense. (But to even consider that VR or SR possibility of what our lives may actually be is to threaten our ego’s very existence. And that never goes over well with the EGO, so it often refuses to even consider it.)

And I know that it is sometimes hard to conceptualize the multi-levels of possibility existing to anyone reading this stuff that I write about here. Some folks may get it and some don’t. That’s fine. (If it resonates with you, the words are meant to help spur you to exploring your true potential, period. I don’t have to hard sell anyone on anything.)

But to this particular caller who was a bit upset about what her therapist had erroneously told her about her past-life experiences, I would say that no matter what dramatic situation you may have explored in any dimensional lifetime, you were only playing a role. You may have played the role of pauper or Prince, beggar or banker, mother or child, male or female, warrior or peace activist, brother or enemy, no matter the setting—all of those drama-exploration packages were merely roles that you played in those situations—real or imagined. We play those roles to learn all we can about the human potential for creation and awareness expansion, and to learn the nuances and power of our emotions (which are energy frequencies) that we explore in those lifetimes.

Learning in its purest sense, is actually stimulus/response data accumulation for training purposes, and that’s what the High Self specializes in. It is the database repository of all lifetime experiences. When I take a client to a previous life experience, I simply ask their High Self to show the client the most appropriate PL example at this time so the client can better understand his/her most-pressing current-life issue. The client’s High Self controls the entire show in my sessions—I don’t. I only ask questions to guide the client through the experience itself.questionsfrom pl.jpg

Unfortunately when some people are told that they have played some particular role in a previous existence (I prefer a client experience it directly for themselves—I never TELL THEM anything about their experience—they tell me what they are seeing, hearing and doing), the current ego steps in and ‘stakes a flag’ in the old drama claiming the role itself as the most significant aspect of the entire exploration. But actually, it really doesn’t matter the role that you played in whatever drama production ran at the time, it only matters what you learned from that other-lifetime role to advance your current spiritual evolution.

If you’ve had a Past-Life Exploration, and you suddenly realize that you are still dealing with similar relationship situations in the NOW and manifesting those same reactive behavior patterns that proved so hazardous to you in the more traumatic past-life, then it’s a good heads-up to the need to change your present-life behaviors to something more advantageous to your present-life survival. (i.e.: Yes, pulling the tiger’s tail can be hazardous to your health.)

THAT is the sole message to take from the PL experience—if I don’t want to keep doing this same thing life after life, motherterrasathen I better change my attitude and behavior so I “get it right this time” and avoid any future replays of this unpleasant energy pattern. That is ALL it means.

But to change a behavior pattern takes not only a certain degree of self-knowledge, it also requires you to take back your power to make those changes for yourself—which is often what much of our life lessons entail.

Many of our life situations are less about fighting with others through power struggles, and far more about learning the nuances of self-control and self-empowerment so you don’t have to fight with others.

Self-knowledge, self-empowerment, and creating the reality you desire with your every thought and emotion (electromagnetic light-wave frequencies)—these are the subjects that I write about, and they’re all connected, lifechallenges.jpgbecause these are the real life lessons we must master, no matter the lifetime that we experience, and no matter where that “life” actually occurs.

 

The Anomaly

“An anomaly,” he said. “He’s just an anomaly.”

The speaker was a Gold-Star father, Kazir Khan, the setting was the Morning Joe show, and of course the subject matter was the Presidency.K Khan.jpg

Khan had an interesting take on it all, and one that was well-considered and even generous pertaining to Trump’s mental instability and disrupt-ability.

An anomaly? I thought.  Where have I heard that referenced in a similar context, if only fictional?

Yes, it was in Asimov’s Foundation series from long ago. If memory serves me correctly, it was the politically powerful, galactic ruler who fooled the established psychological pre-screening profiles (called psychohistory) for acceptable governing. They called him “The Mule.”

(Geeze, …now I have to look all this up to be sure my memory holds true.)

Ok, here it is:

Foundation_and_empire_cover.jpg“The Mule is a fictional character from Isaac Asimov’s Foundation series. One of the greatest conquerors the galaxy has ever seen, he is a mentalic who has the ability to reach into the minds of others and “adjust” their emotions, individually or en masse, using this capability to conscript individuals to his cause.” Mule (Foundation) – Wikipedia

In keeping with the Foundation series being based on the Roman Empire, the Mule has historical parallels with Attila the Hun, Tamerlane, and Charlemagne; he has also been compared to the Roman Emperor Augustus, Adolf Hitler, Stalin and several other absolute tyrants of recent history.” Mule (Foundation) – Wikipedia

“…the mutant Mule […] is not given a personality (in Asimov’s Foundation series)he is merely a powerful anomaly” Colin Manlove

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Yes. The Mule was the anomaly that psychohistory could not predict, which occasionally happens in real life. Look at last year.

Do I think Asimov’s character the Mule is what Khan was referencing?

No. I think he was just trying to explain a situation that defies logic in a democratic society that seemingly now risks losing its bearings.

“I’ve lived under Marshall law two times,” Khan, a former Pakistani, explained.  “This democracy—this American constitution that guarantees our rights and liberties is solid and stable. An anomaly such as Mr. Trump can disrupt it, but not destroy it.”

So for those of us who are sick of what constitutes for “the news” these days, Khan’s thoughts are actually more positive than expected, or in essence we might otherwise recognize them as:

“This too shall pass.”passing.jpg

But not nearly fast enough.