One Last Chance to Visit 3 Presenters from the “Understanding Narcissism” Summit

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Just saw the email from Tami Simons (Sounds True) on a last chance to hear Caroline Myss’s presentation that I wrote about earlier, ( https://content.soundstrue.com/understanding-narcissism-summit-encore?utm_source=bronto&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=C191116-UNS-Sell4&utm_content=Myss,+Hanson,+and+Neff+-+Free+Encore+Presentations&_bta_tid=09528543415476418810300132756200661561082200615837475413618082489837536028413298474285896175960726012765&_bta_c=azpcfyz2d505smzjcvmh15bka8yxt),  as well as two additional presenters, one of which I am reviewing here today.

This one is called “Healthy Confidence” by Rick Hanson, PhD.  Initially I didn’t understand (or appreciate) why Rick’s focus was on looking for a healthy approach to milder aspects of narcissism. So today when I listened again, I did so with the consideration that for some reason Tami and Jeffery thought that out of the 20 presenters listed, not only Caroline was offered again (which I easily 4dbb3d925440f266e9f3a71eaca87e9c.jpgunderstood), but also offered again for some reason was Rick Hanson’s presentation which to me represented the counter argument for considering mild forms of narcissism as building blocks for establishing a sense of solid self-esteem.

Then I listened more closely to what Rick was actually stressing here and he sounded very “Dr. Joe Dispenza” to me—more about healing yourself by holding the higher love-frequency emotions and using positive reinforcement to establish new patterns of brain function.  Then it made sense why he was offered as an encore. It was a positive presentation of helping others to help themselves in terms of self-worth.  Here are a few quotes:

“It’s about narcissism vs. self-worth—helping people develop (constructive) concepts of true self-worth to help those (more destructive) narcissistic tendencies fall away. Narcissists have a hollowness inside—an emptiness that they keep trying to fill with external recognition and a fair amount of self-preoccupation.  …”

He researched mother-toddler pairs and how those interactions created the solidity or lack-thereof in early childhood development.  “ …dismissive or indifferent early-childhood care-givers often created the void felt by infants that later led to excessive self-focused behaviors…”  It involved negative enforcement for undesirable infant behavior rather than a positive approach to desirable behaviors. … meaning, caregivers ignoring crying, disruptive behaviors, etc.

“It’s not abusive parental behavior, as it is simply a behavioral modification style that the parent believes is necessary and beneficial to the child and family in the long run, but which actually creates a feeling of unmet needs in the infant and child. … the child has yearnings for personal connection and love—to feel cared for and appreciated…these are normal human needs that are then met or unmet by the style of the caregiver. …

“Feelings of low worth and insecurity lead to self-preoccupation of feeling inadequate or insecure that push away the needs of other people in favor of fulfilling their own.  Overt narcissism is an endless pulling of social supplies from other people to fill that hole in the heart. …

“How do we grow healthy self-confidence? …How do we heal that old pain of never being good enough or adequate enough? … (Hungry ghost stuff). …

“Self-directed neuro-plasticity ….any kind of lasting change psychologically must be your-neurotransmitters-and-.jpgthrough lasting change physically. We become less demanding of others…we can be in relationships without making it all about ourselves. … especially create changes in the nervous system and the brain that make lasting learning… neurons that fire together wire together… help the experience leave a lasting physical experience behind to provide a memory that fuels our desirable behavior change.  …We become active agents of our own process of healing and transformation … Have the experience and enjoy it—really enjoy it—help those neurons form physical structures of brainwave patterns.  Stay with a positive experience for a few breaths to help it solidify in your brain. … somatic experiences—body sensations help us retain the benefits of the experience.  It is a rewarded feeling—we are being positively reinforced about our experience and it releases dopamine and serotonin in the brain.  Those ‘feel good’ chemicals released into our bloodstream that helps us feel good about ourselves.  …

“When we feel our worth, it represents something that we feel is true. We recognize it as a positive experience—we feel good about it. See it—feel it—internalize it. …

“Four major sources of self-worth (or self-confidence)—how you fill yourself up to feel good about yourself despite what others might think about you:

  • The 1st is to feel ‘cared about or caring’, …authentic experiences of warm-heartedness or altruistic love.index.jpg
  • 2nd is recognizing your own good qualities—natural talents, disciplined, hard-worker, perseverer, etc.
  • 3rd is experiencing and recognizing your true nature deep down—wakefulness, goodness, lovingness, Buddha-nature, childlike innocence, delight in existing, good wishes toward others, wishing to help others,
  • 4th is forgiving yourself, …self-compassion, healing shame, letting go of criticism, pardoning yourself but taking accurate responsibility for your actions and then moving forward in positive ways toward a better way of being.” ….

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Jeffery: “How does this process soften narcissistic tendencies?” 

Rick:  “I’ve seen when people do this simple receiving practice of filling themselves with love and positive experience, they feel ‘more full’ inside, it lessens their craving for unmet needs, and tames craving of needing the opinions and acceptance of others.  They feel less a sense of deficit—of something missing because that person has then learned how to self-fulfill themselves with positive feelings of true self-worth. …”  

Jeffery:  “…so you don’t have to reduce narcissistic tendencies, you simply have to build a greater sense of true self-worth?”

Rick:  “With therapeutic help and cultivating a larger shift in perspective, it helps to regulate the ‘need factor’ of how we tend to use others for fulfilling own sense of worth.”

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Okay. That is my quick-take of Rick Hanson’s presentation and his professional opinions as a practicing psychologist and a therapist, and to some degree I assume his techniques may be successful with those who have milder narcissistic tendencies, but with those who are severely narcissistic and primarily self-focused, I just can’t imagine that this treatment is truly and lastingly effective.  But again, that is just my opinion, and what do I know anyway. … 🙂

But I do agree with giving a child a healthy sense of self-worth, and in defining what the difference is between narcissism and actually creating a healthy sense of self-worth.

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To that end I could more easily agree with Dr. Kristin Neff who was also offered on the page, on the ‘difference between self-esteem and self compassion’ and the importance of standing up for oneself against a malignant narcissist.

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What Is True Authenticity?

If you can actually answer that spiritual question posed here of “What is TRUE authenticity?” then the next question would be “Then how do you define SELF-realization?”  (Wow, shades of Paramahansa Yogananda’s revelations on SELF-REALIZATION)—which is from the same ‘self-awareness era’ that A.H. Almaas reminds me of when I first read his “Diamond Approach” book a few years ago.  He was an early pioneer of self/TRUE SELF-realization back in the 70’s-80’s, when Yogananda’s epic Hindu philosophy was fairly popular.

The analysis of TRUE AUTHENTICITY all comes back to answering the basic questions of whoamihand (1).jpgWho am I?  What is my TRUE identity? Am I strictly a physical being ruled by my biology and pathology? Or am I an elusive spiritual entity seemingly trapped in an earth-bound physical body—constantly yearning to return to my True Higher Source from which I came?

These are all good questions, and ones I’ve certainly been asking myself for the last 30 years.

These old gems are surfacing again now because I’m currently understandingnarcissismst.jpglistening to A. H. Almaas (founder of the Diamond Approach®), on “how narcissism became an impediment to spiritual awakening”. (It’s Day 7 of the same “Understanding Narcissism” series from Sounds True, like the Caroline Myss presentation from a few days ago.)  According to Almaas,

“when you move from simply experiencing your spiritual nature, to BEING it—meaning, when you move from somebody who is experiencing the spiritual experience to BEING the spiritual experience itself—THAT is self-realization. …

…The Self here is NOT defined by the MIND in your self-identity—meaning: You are NOT who you erroneously delude yourself that you are—your self-identity may not be a pure representation of WHO you really are, but may instead be an aggregation of who you have been told that you are, who you wish that you were, and who you often act like in actual daily life.  It’s your self-representation—NOT your true self-identity.

Tami Simon pins him down pretty well here trying to sharpen his focus: “OK, and what you’re saying is this constellation of self-representations, self-images, self-identification with my body, with my name, with my place in the world, that this is all inherently narcissistic, because it’s not actually essential, stripped down, not what I actually AM in this moment without referencing memories and self-representations.”

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Almaas responds with “That is TRUE.  There is another way of looking at it,….it has nothing to do with instability and insecurity in the sense of self—a sense of false  identity. …now in spiritual work, the EGO is ultimately unstable and insecure because it is NOT who we really are.  So true challenges to our experience will show it (the EGO) to be fragile.  It may not be obvious in our experience, but when we come to something extraordinary or profound, the EGO is shaken. …because it’s NOT who we really are. …We are more than that.” …

…”In your old age, when you’ve lived your life and all that, when you come to the end of your accomplishments, where does your VALUE come from?  When you’re forgotten about, when you come to the end of what other people think of you, when you come to your actual self—where does your TRUE value come from?

For spiritually-realized people, value gushes out from inside.  It is inherent to the TRUE Self—that is SELF-REALIZATION.  The TRUE SELF is pure sense of preciousness, goodness, and beauty.  So its value is intrinsic and inherent. It does not need accomplishments.

…But in a realized person, those things are an expression of something deeper. And because of that, their actions and activities have a lot to do with benefiting others instead of simply benefiting oneself. ..So Ego is inherently self-centered. …But a realized person doesn’t think of others as different than oneself—they are naturally loving and caring, …not self-centered—self-focused.  …How do I feel? …I feel like my heart is full of some kind of richness, a richness, a fullness, a sort of sweetness, a kind of love, …a love that is an inherent higher value.  I, being ME, is PURE VALUE.  I don’t need others to see that value. I feel it—I am IT—which is a far cry from somebody who wants their value to be seen and acknowledged by others to feel a sense of value within themselves. … 

We are the SELF that is not created by the actions of time…. It simply IS—it infinitely exists as the ‘I AM’. THAT is SELF-REALIZATION—the direct recognition that I am the ‘I AM’. “

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“Narcissism: the Evolution of Consciousness” per Caroline Myss

One of the nice things about Facebook (at least for those of us who do still use it) is the ability to receive info offers from sources that might appeal to you.  One of those info sources for me is “Sounds True” (founder is Tami Simon) who often provides FREE (with limited-time availability) psychology-related summits that I find both interesting and informative.  And if I think these summits are interesting enough for sharing, I usually provide a link here so that others can view the materials for themselves if they wish.understandingnarcissismst.jpg

Lately I’ve been listening daily to the latest Sounds True summit on “Understanding Narcissism” (Day 5 yesterday) within the 24-hour FREE time periods for each day: “Understanding Narcissism Summit with 20 leading experts in psychology and spirituality.”

The gist of this summit’s importance is “that as Americans, we are living in an era of narcissism: social media addiction, overall lack of presence and empathy, and increased societal division”; that and the current resident of the Oval Office demonstrates daily what being a Malignant Narcissist entails, so if you wanted to better understand him, here is the chance with this summit.  Overall I think it’s a timely and interesting presentation of 20 leading authorities on the subject matter of narcissism in general.  (And yes, some folks are more interesting than others to me.)

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Overall for the Sounds True folks, the focus is on first understanding what is really happening to us personally as well as culturally in this current narcissistic group dynamic, and then determining how best to shift the current narcissistic focus from ME to WE to mend the deep social divisions in our country.

Yesterday I was hearing Day 5’s presentations beginning with Caroline Myss, who is considered more so a spiritual teacher than the other psychologists and therapists carolmyss456.jpgwho had been presenting prior to her, and one I’ve been listening to over the last two decades.  Initially to me she seemed a strange choice for this particular summit, but then she began talking about overviews and the BIG PICTURE of why this era of narcissism is happening to us as a group consciousness, so I naturally perked up to hear her unique thoughts on the subject matter of “narcissism as being a stage of consciousness” that we are meant to go through in our own soul’s evolution.

A few sentences in, she shifted the entire summit for me from “how to treat narcissism and those affected by the malignant narcissist that they may work or live with daily” to WHY we as a society and culture are “exploring” the archetype of Narcissist right now; and then everything shifted in my head to better see the reasoning for those socially chaotic decades of my own life during the time period from late 60’s to the present.

According to Caroline during the turmoil of the late 60’s, youth felt “the need to break away to discover our individuality—our individual self—to launch on the journey of our INNER SELF—to find out what am I capable or—what am I made of?  The 60’s was a decade of REVOLUTION.  That sense of ‘I’m not going to take this anymore—you can’t tell me what to do—you can’t send me to war I don’t understand… Revolution was the first phase of breaking out of a Tribal thought-form—this is archetypal.  In the 60’s this template began, and it was collective. It exploded—it downloaded into our global soul and the REVOLUTION began (to separate ME from WE)….the sense of INNER SELF and PERSONAL was born. ..Now when we are in the revolutionary stage—the BIRTH of the SELF—you may know what you ‘won’t take anymore’, but you may not know what you WILL take—or what you DO want.  You don’t know what you DO want—all you know is that when you are revolting, ‘you know what you do NOT want’ and ‘what you will NOT accept’. …’I won’t take this anymore’…you are revolting against the control of a system or a person or a structure to control how you perceive reality.  That’s important for you to understand that. …What’s controlling your perceptions—what’s controlling your capacity to respond—to make choices. And another way for you to understand this is to reduce it—condense it—to something that makes sense to you—YOU DON’T WANT YOUR POWER CONTROLLED so you are revolting against those who try to control your ‘power to decide for yourself’.” 

Wow! Bingo! That’s it completely. It took this personal revolt from the accepted norm to get us to this point in awareness, but now we must evolve further to survive our own self-focus. She continued:

“Out of that revolution of the 60’s came the ‘collective permission’ to pursue something that never existed before , called the Inner Self. So we collectively gave birth to a hybrid EGO that we never had before. …We had a survival Ego but we never had this collective ‘Inner-Self’ focus. carolinemyssportrait678.jpg

…Another thought-form that made its way into the Collective at this time, which was a gargantuan and mystical truth but it came in kind of a ‘pop-camp’ package, was that WE CREATE OUR OWN REALITY. …Now while at a mystical level we participate in the creation of our own reality, ..that profound mystical teaching got translated into kind of a pop-culture way which says ‘I can choose whatever I want, I’m free to do whatever I want, and I create my reality, and there it is! …It’s not unlike the way the Churches took the profound teachings of Jesus and reduced them to the politics of the CHURCH so that you don’t even see those profound , mystical teachings that later had to come through Saint Francis of Assisi or Theresa of Avila. ..This mystical sense of spirituality that exploded within us in the 60’s—that produced this longing in us to find our own path—the Spirit that lit up our nuclear power base—it compelled people in the 60’s to seek what was named ‘this Spiritual Path.’  And that caused people to break away from the Tribe. …and the slightest Tribal shift is going to get a repercussive reaction from members of the Tribe.  So we formed our own Tribe—of Spiritual seekers—so we went from one traditional tribe to another Tribe of outrageous individuals who called themselves Hippies, … they had to strike out at the beginning of this movement of finding the Inner Self.  ..This movement eventually laid the groundwork for what we call Narcissism…the Narcissist—the you can’t tell me what to do—I need to find myself.  This is how the momentum began that literally launched this tremendous appetite and permission to go our own way. 

60’s blended into 70’s, Hippies grew up and had children of their own and gradually moved into the 2nd stage of revolution is INVOLUTION. … Once you say I don’t want this—you will always retreat inside—to look within to see what you Do want. …now you listen for the voice of the INNER SELF to know what you Do want. ..Now you’re in a different field of power—now it’s clear you have to make a choice. ..You are shifting from having been controlled to feeling a different voice.  The 70’s was an involution decade.  But what came out of that was exactly what came out of you…you start piecing together a path.  You start asking yourself ‘What do I need?’ and it always begins with the discovery and existence of your inner self. ..Now you realize that nothing begins without SELF-ESTEEM.  Self-esteem will become a part of this journey of you putting yourself together.  Of you developing a voice. ..Of you becoming a whole person. …Enter the 1980’s—The DECADE OF THE NARCISSIST.  And now we move into the stage of you becoming a Narcissist—the essential stage and the risky stage.  This was the decade that gave rise to Narcissism—the decade in many ways, in which we are psychically stuck.

This is why we need the Narcissistic Phase:  We need it because breaking away from the Tribal Journey requires a great deal of inner-self stamina, lest you get reeled back in. …

What’s going on here at a very different level is that we are all of us on a track of discovering the power of our own soul to participate in acts of creation—that in fact every word we say sets in motion an act of creation… that every thought results into setting energy into motion…that every feeling sets sparks of energy into creation…that every choice we make is this moment in time where we need to ascend to a level of inner knowledge where we truly understand that we are vessels of creative power and that is the nature of God within us and around us.  The nature of God is expressed through the creative laws of the Universe—that we are governed by these laws….

…That we are a species participating in a constant flow of all that is created. …We are becoming hyper-sensitive—hyper-aware of our own selves—we are becoming Narcissistic –but in fact it is a hyper-awareness of our own creative ability. …to impact our biology and impact the biology of others.  In this journey of becoming aware of the power within us, but it has brought us to the illusion of our own significance—but it is the power that is significant—not ourselves wielding it. …We need to become mindful enough to manage ourselves. Like a spiritual art-form to move through the dark side of Narcissism…where we embrace our shadow-side self—sense of self-importance—and move beyond it—the words we say are important in their power—but not that WE are important in saying them.  When we believe that WE are the center of the universe, is the dark side of narcissism.  When we feel entitled—‘blame, deserve, entitlement’ are the sources of your greatest suffering on earth.  We need to humble up. … We need to recognize and reclaim our true power, but not focus on our personal ability to do so. It’s not about us—it’s about the ability we all have to create with intention….

narcissism2.jpgThe task of the Narcissist is to ‘Get Over Yourself’. ..we need to mature into a level of self-awareness—self-management—self-accountability. You become a high-functioning individual …who returns to the human tribe with a sense of community, as you affect all others in what you do.  ‘What I do affects the whole.’  That is the new Theology. …My personal spiritual ecology is part of the ecological system of the Earth itself.  …That is the NEW Theology.  …What I do is then done to the whole.  Narcissism is the state of awakening to your own power, or NOT.  …See through the illusion of personal importance…. Healing occurs when you see beyond taking things personally.  The Universe is not personal.  It is archetypal.  I can choose to be detached from the personal and work instead with mystical truths. …

“Narcissists delude themselves into thinking that they can control the entirety around them.  They try to do that very thing.” …

“You’ve been given a life and a task and one of those tasks is to become fully you… and you have to trust ‘that journey of becoming fully you’ is what you were meant to do. But at the same time, that does NOT make you ‘special’—you are simply one of many journeying in their own ways—but we are always journeying together. You aren’t here by yourself. ..The spiritual path is about Truth—about you discovering what is REAL—and you are able to manage yourself and your power without compromising it by your shadow and your EGO-focus.  …The Spiritual path is about courage.  It’s not about your personal accomplishment—it is about finding your inner truth and then recognizing it as such. …”   ~Caroline Myss.

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[In truth I did not intend to type so much of what she said during her presentation, but I soon realized that with only an hour left of FREE viewing, no one would be able to catch her talk without paying to hear it.  So I transcribed most of it here because it is extremely pertinent and powerful.  At least in this way you could actually catch it.]

 

Reality Is A Reflection of Beliefs

Upon seeing this, I loved the image first, but the subject matter “What is reality?” naturally caught my attention.  One of the key thoughts in this article by Anatasia Netri is this one: Reality is nothing more than a way of looking at things. Instead of focusing on creating circumstances which don’t change your reality, focus on shifting your perceptions, and watch your reality change.”

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“Why Reality Is A Reflection Of Your Beliefs – By Anastasia Netri

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There are two people sitting on each end of a bench. Both people are hungry. At the exact same moment, a person walks up to each of them and hands them an apple.

This is the reality:

One person says “Wow, I was hungry and an apple appeared! Ah, the bounty of the universe. Geez, life really has my back. Thank you!”

The other person says, “All I get is this freakin’ apple? What happens in 10 minutes when I’m hungry again? I’m sick of being hungry. Life sucks.”

Reality isn’t your circumstances. Reality is how life feels to you. Circumstances don’t change that.

Often we hear things like, “Change your thoughts, change your life” or “Change from the inside out.” All these things are true.

We’ve confused reality with circumstances. However, reality is caused by our deep core beliefs about life. If we feel constantly that there’s never enough, and that’s way down in the subconscious, then no circumstance will ever make a dent in that. You can have money, food in the fridge, even some good relationships, but what you’ll feel most of the time is either that there’s still not enough, you’ll constantly worry about losing it, or you’ll even begin to sabotage these things without even realizing it to actually create circumstances that match your belief.

When you believe not-enoughness, what you want is to feel that enoughness and the peace that comes with it. So, you unknowingly look to create that from the outside in but it never satiates that desire for peace, no matter what you do. Reality changes when those limiting core beliefs are identified and examined because anything that’s not true will fall apart under examination.

Reality is a reflection of your beliefs.

Does your reality match what you say you believe?

If you want to change your reality, look at the current one. How does life feel to you? What tends to be your first reaction or response?

Are you trying to create outer circumstances that you think will change your reality?

For instance, If you feel unlovable, does someone else loving you change that on a deep level? If you feel unworthy, does hitting a goal or an accomplishment change that? Or do you feel like you’re just overcompensating? Worried? Stressed?

Begin with the truth. Begin right now, by taking a look at the current reality. Then, ask yourself what this current reality is showing you what you believe. To release false beliefs, they need to be identified.

There’s a wonderful quote by Carl Jung that says:

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”

You’ll not only call it fate, but you’ll call it a reality.

A Course in Miracles defines a miracle as a shift in perception, so imagine this for a moment: imagine how different life would feel if you knew like you knew, like you KNEW that life was working out for you. It wasn’t an affirmation or something you needed to remind yourself of, it was just something you knew, like how you know gravity is real. You don’t have to remind yourself that you aren’t going to fly off into space, you just know it. You can relax about it.

When the core beliefs change, perceptions change, and then, you will live in a reality that feels much more peaceful.

Reality is nothing more than a way of looking at things. Instead of focusing on creating circumstances which don’t change your reality, focus on shifting your perceptions, and watch your reality change. “

 

The World Is Our Mind’s Reflection

Just listened to a short excerpt of Hota Kotb hodadeepaktoday.jpgon Today Show doing an interview with Deepak Chopra pertaining to his new book: METAHUMAN, and thought I’d share a few quotes that caught my ear.

( https://www.facebook.com/today/videos/796183174171239/ )

Deepak:  “The best advice I can give…is don’t take yourself seriously.  You’re here today and gone tomorrow.”

“If you are taking yourself seriously you will be offended by others for the rest of your life.”

“The whole purpose of our existence is to find our own joy, to experience and maximize the experience of love, and to then find some meaning and purpose to our existence, and to be healthy.  And that is all.”

“Everyone is doing the best that they can from their present state of awareness.  Everybody is doing the best that they can from their own (behavioral) conditioning, which goes back to their childhood—what they heard from their parents.”

“Anytime you look at the world, you are actually looking at a reflection of yourself.  So when people criticize you, they are actually reflecting what they think of themselves.”

(She asks him: ‘In this moment where are you?’)

Deepak:  “I am at peace…I am totally at peace.  It’s easy.”

She responds with, ‘You’re right though—that’s all there is. What are we sweating?’

“Yes, take it easy. (Don’t automatically react to negativity or criticism around you)….We become biological robots constantly being triggered by people and circumstances, into predictable outcomes.  That’s a terrible way to live. You’re at the mercy of every stranger on the street.   They say something nice; you are flattered for the rest of your life.  They say something nasty; and you’re offended for the rest of your life.  What a way to live.”

To which she repeats: ‘What a way to live.  You’re right.’

 

The Beauty of Choice

Just talked to a close friend about her recent psychic reading from a woman she had never met and who had no idea about my friend’s life, history, family, etc. Sometimes those are the most accurate readings because the person doing the reading then has no tainted feelings about it one way or the other.

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My friend’s impression of the ‘reading’ was that the lady was fairly accurate in stating some basic facts, but in others ways the woman made some erroneous ‘interpretations’ on what she might have been seeing or intuiting during the session.  (We all filter the world we see through our own biases and personal histories.  Good psychics recognize their innate tendency to judge and proselytize with a client, so they restrain themselves.  Not-so-good ones will tell you their opinions, instead of simply relaying the facts presented to them.)

One of the statements the psychic made even claimed that prior to our incarnation, we make contracts with our closest relations to come here and “act in certain ways” with each other.  She then said, “So don’t be unhappy with your (family-person) for how that person acted, and what you or she had to endure during that person’s life here because it was all preordained to play out exactly as it did.  She couldn’t have been any other way.”

To that I say BULLSHIT

We may incarnate with a set family of mutually-agreed spirits who are here to evolve and grow their own consciousness through interactions with each other, as well as through interactions with those beyond the initial family group, but HOW we individually act throughout our lives is a choice that we make every minute of every day that we breathe this earthly air. That’s what ‘free-will’ is all about. We ALL have choices in what we do and how we do it.

Every moment that we are alive involves a choice in how we respond to our surroundings and to all external stimuli; and those choices are both personally affecting to our own soul’s evolution and mutually affecting to others in our selected family groups at the same time (even affecting to the greater collective consciousness).

To live our lives daily, we ALL make choices, and each choice leads to other choices that diverge from that first choice like a tree branch growing new twigs that reach in ekrquotechoices54.jpgdifferent directions as the branch continues to grow up toward the sky. When you choose one particular branch of that tree of life to follow, you are pretty much limiting your upward growth potential to that branch’s original direction, otherwise you have to backtrack all the way down the original tree branch to the trunk base to then choose a different branch to follow because in this life, you’re not a leaping squirrel and can jump from this main branch to another main one and expect your life to simply shift for the better because of it.  It takes real work to reverse an unwise original direction.

It is possible and well worthwhile to change unwise original directions, but it won’t be easily done because we all make choices daily from early childhood onwards, and every choice leads to more choices until a general life direction is established. Then as we get older personal attitude, natural tendencies to rely on established habit, and other motivations to either face down each new challenge before us or to give up and succumb to them by numbing ourselves out with booze or pills, become the determiners of how far up that particular branch you climb.

Those are ALL CHOICES that we willingly make—that is NOT predetermination.  Period.

Yes, there are extremely difficult situations that we may have experienced in this life that might be excellent learning opportunities in disguise, BUT it takes a pretty enlightened person to view them as such. Otherwise, we simply view them as they were originally presented to us—just awful and senseless living environments that were hard for us to endure back then, and even harder to make sense of now.

But even with those previous takingchargeofmylifechoicehardships and tests of personal endurance, we still face a choice in how we respond to those memory challenges.  As a child, you might have been the unwilling recipient of your parent’s momentary or long-term instability, but as an adult who is capable of better understanding human weaknesses or frailties, you NOW have the choice in how you view those situations, and more importantly—you have the CHOICE in how you presently react to or not-react to those unpleasant memories.

Your offending parent made numerous choices in his or her life, and those choices may have adversely affected you as an impressionable and vulnerable child. While you had few choices at the time to handle those difficult childhood situations, you have many choices now to deal with the residual memories and tainted attitudes that may still haunt you.

That is the beauty of choice: Every moment presents you with a new one.

Despite what that psychic erroneously told my friend, happiness isn’t something predetermined for you prior to this life.

Happiness is a choice you make and a path that you decide to follow.

 

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August Energies: Dancing Between the Old and the New

Of the ‘energy assessors’ that I follow, I thought Lee Harris had the better analysis for August 2019 energies, and felt that it needed to be shared.  So my suggestion is to simply visit the website mentioned below where the video and transcript of his August energy assessment is available for you. (But I did break out a few key points below for emphasis.)

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https://www.leeharrisenergy.com/aug-2019-energy-update

Energy Update August 2019

“If you are feeling like you have been through the wringer the last month or so, you are right on track. August will in some ways be a lot calmer and smoother in terms of the waters of life. But that’s in preparation for September when the speed will kick off again, so this is a month where we enter a new phase for the rest of the year. So, many of you will feel like you’re coming to the end of a period of reviewing and clearing in August, and ready to move into a period from September onwards where more birth and foundational energy will be available. August itself will have a very different energy signature to the last 2 or 3 months; a period which brought with it many surprises, twists and turns, and unexpected events.

The main themes to focus on for August for this NEW PHASE WE ARE ENTERING are:

  • A NEW LEVEL OF PRESENCE
  • VISIONS, DREAMS AND EPIPHANIES
  • SELF-CARE BEING NEEDED NOW MORE THAN EVER

What I was shown for August is that we’re about to enter a very new phase which makes sense of the last month or two – the intensity, the push-pull, the high emotions, the moving from one state to another quite fast. There has been a lot of vibrational upshift happening, in an awkward, uncomfortable or sometimes messy way. But this has been in relation to (and preparation for) the new phase we enter now in August. So, for those of you who are looking for a reprieve from the intensity, and surfing the extremes of the past few months, it’s going to take some time for that ‘clearing’ phase to calm down somewhat. So, self-care and your self-care needs are going to continue to be of high importance….”

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“…So is it a new awareness you are opening or a new nudge to actually ‘create’ that you are having? Important to discern the difference right now as it can be tricky to know which.

I bring this up because in August especially, these dreams, visions, epiphanies and ideas are going to continue to be strong as part of you reviewing your life, this world, and reviewing what’s next. We’re in a planetary wide review of life and consciousness itself, and it’s an experience that’s going on for everybody….

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“…There are more people in emotional, physical or circumstantial need right now on the planet than ever before. You’ll notice this and you’ll notice that these struggles are often the catalyst to awaken people into their hearts, their consciousness. It’s a shame it has to happen that way. It’s far nicer when it happens without a pressured circumstance, but that pressure is a part of how consciousness is opening and spreading across the planet….

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“…And remember that for all of us it can be quite challenging, as we dance between old parts of ourself and new parts of ourself. So remember that today is new – and everything that we’re about to move through is quite new. But most of us in this dance of the extremes that I was talking about, especially in the month of July, we’re going between old patterns, old ideas, old beliefs and then straight into new ideas, new beliefs, new experiences….”         —Lee  Harris