Lately there has been a running theme from a variety of info sources that I follow, on the importance of our being able to shift our skewed life perspectives and to welcome positive changes into our lives.
During this tumultuous time for our nation and the world, not to mention in our own personal lives, I think it is important to consider what these folks are really saying about how we tend to view events occurring around us, what responsibility we all bear for allowing those events to transpire, and even more importantly, how we can shift our perspectives on any event to not allow it to emotionally affect us.
The only thing we do control in many situations is how we REACT, including how we REACT to difficult personal interactions or how we REACT to group decisions to which we personally disagree.
I will be the first one to say that NOT reacting is hard—at times VERY HARD. But I also know that when you can be triggered to lose your cool over any issue, either large or small, you have just given away two key personal-power stances: One, is that you’ve allowed another person or situation to pull you out of your higher-frequency energy posture and down into lower-frequency fear/anger-based thinking; and two, once your triggered reaction is achieved and you are about to explode back at them with an angry retort, you have just shown the other person or group that you are easily manipulated to their bidding simply because you can’t control your own thinking and emotions.
Dr. Joe is taking it a little further here. He is saying that the more you let your reactive emotions control you, the more you tend to believe that outside forces control your life. When this pattern of reactivity to external forces keeps reinforcing itself in your mind and bio-chemically within your physical body, it creates patterns of behavior and reactivity to every aspect of your life.
The more you condition yourself to respond to life in a certain manner, the more you reinforce that personal view where you see yourself as a ‘victim of circumstances beyond your control,’ rather than the more accurate view of your having a choice and say in every decision you make that affects your life even if the most important choice is one of NOT REACTING to a stressor or an emotional trigger.
He takes it one step beyond by saying that our present perspective on life is based on past reactivity to any situation, that makes it ‘past-situation tainted’ and also means that perspective is likely untrue to the actual affecting influences of the present so that we cling to a view of our present lives that isn’t even accurate: “The latest research on memory says that 50% of what we talk about in our past isn’t even the truth. So, we make stuff up about the past. People are reliving a life that they didn’t even have just to reaffirm that they can’t change…“
For all of us, there are events constantly occurring to us and around us. But what matters most to our personal wellbeing and mental health is how we see ourselves in truthful relation to those events, and our willingness to CHANGE personal behaviors that may skew our existing life perspectives.
“The stronger the emotion you feel from some event in your life, be it a betrayal, or a trauma. The more altered you feel inside of you, the more you pay attention to the cause outside of you. The brain takes a snapshot. It freezes an image and embosses that pattern neurologically in the brain. That’s called a memory. We create long term memories from strong emotional events.
Some people have stronger experiences in their life, and it catches all of the brain’s attention. So now they think neurologically within the circuits of the past experience, and they feel chemically within the boundaries of those emotions.
How you think and how you feel creates a state of being. The problem is that if you don’t know how to mediate or control your emotional reaction to that event, and you keep that refractory period of chemicals going on for standard periods of time that event produces a chemical change, and the body needs to return back to homeostasis or balance. But if it can’t, then the elongation of that emotional reaction for days or weeks is called the mood. You keep firing and wiring the same circuits, and you keep conditioning the body into the past.
So then you wake up in the morning and you look for the emotion. Now, all of a sudden you keep it lingering for weeks or months. That’s called the temperament. You keep it going on for years on end. That’s called the personality trait.
So then a person then is memorizing themselves by living in the past. And then you say to them, ‘well, tell me the story.’
The latest research on memory says that 50% of what we talk about in our past isn’t even the truth. So, we make stuff up about the past. People are reliving a life that they didn’t even have just to reaffirm that they can’t change… Dr. Joe Dispenza