These are my lengthy notes from hearing Sara Landon speaking on “Reclaim Your Power” from 3-13-18, on the “Beyond the Ordinary Show”. (Hopefully this link will work for you, if not you can join the “Beyond the Ordinary Show” where you can access all of the speakers.) This one is definitely worth hearing.
(Most of these notes are either direct quotes or are quickly paraphrased as I listened to Sara, so please pardon my not using quotation marks. If it is MY opinion, I put it in parentheses.)
We are allowing our deepest core fears to come to the surface now. We must choose a new way to be—a new way to react. It takes courage to live now. Give yourself permission to see what your deepest fears are and how they have controlled every part of your life—how those deepest fears have caused chaos, confusion and suffering in your life. People are now leading others through promoting fear. Our visceral responses to watching others lead through fear—living in fear—is adversely affecting us. By living in fear, we are giving our personal power over to others. So this time period in the world is all about you taking back power over your own life.
5 signs that you are giving your power away:
- Dysfunctional relationship patterns repeating over and over
- Health Issues
- Money Issues
- Addiction issues
- Career/financial stability problems
We are at the time when these fears have come out of the dark and into the light. Now we can process through them and change them. Are you feeling isolated and in self-doubt? How do you take power back over your life?
What is power and why do you want it?
Power is the ability to create a desired result. You have the ability to create a desired result. You can get what you want. Sometimes we live our lives in avoidance of unwanted things rather than focusing on creating the things we DO want in our lives.
What is your deepest fear?
Ask yourself this. Many say they fear not being loved or fear being alone.
We often do things to avoid being unloved and to NOT be alone, so we tend to give our power away to others, just to avoid those things.
Her Council said that: “Our greatest achievement in this life is SELF-love.” If we can love ourselves, we can change the world and learn to love all others again. Self-love is not narcissism. It is a deep acceptance that “I am okay at my core being. I am really okay. It is okay to just be ME.”
There are only two innate fears that we are born with: Fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. All other fears are learned. That means that all other fears were created in highly emotional personal experiences, either personally felt or witnessed interacting with others, or from media sources—like watching a scary movie or TV show.
We experienced the trauma and felt the toxic emotions associated with that fear, whether real or imagined, and we replayed it in our mind until it became a subconscious behavior program that now frames every aspect of our lives.
How do we reclaim our power? Our deepest instinct is to be a part of the tribe—it is survival related. Your chances of survival were stronger within a group community rather than on your own alone.
There’s a survival instinct for connection. So we often give our power away just to fit into the group or to be loved or accepted by others. The fear of not being loved or not being enough turns us into people-pleasers. We give our power away to fit in and feel accepted. The “unacceptable by others” aspect of us is the part that we hide or push down, or deny that even exists.
All of your true power lives in the NOW. NOW is the power point. Fear lives in the past and the future. NOW is the moment you can change and address with love and determination rather than cower in the shadows because of your future fears. Your fears keep you from experiencing your peace and joy in the NOW.
What do you desire to create? That must be your focus. So address the main fear you hold. Ask yourself, “What is my main fear?” Get quiet—go deep—be honest with yourself.
We bring the fears to the surface so we can examine them and release them—let them go. (ME: Do a ceremony over releasing your fears. Write them on paper, say a prayer of release, and then burn the paper. Exhale forcefully and physically blow those fear energies out of your body. Repeat 3-4 times.)
When fearful situations arise, they are good things! They help us recognize the fear behind our motives and actions, and enable us to address it and release it. Sometimes these base fears arise during our childhood when we are unable to defend ourselves, so back then we felt helpless, defenseless—now in the present situation when similar emotions are triggered, even if it isn’t exactly the same situation, that same base fear arises and we are stuck in that fear and feel as helpless as we once did as a child. So we have to examine the fear and deconstruct it for all the components to see that we are now inherently safe because we are now able to better protect ourselves and to choose our responses and actions, rather than having the intentions/actions of others forced upon us.
This is when we learn to react differently in the NOW—stopping the looped pattern of reaction and behavior—and creating new patterns of response, and to reprogram our neural networks to develop new ways of looking at similar situations and new ways of reacting, or NOT reacting, to whatever is happening around you.
If you are feeling fearful, then stop yourself, calm yourself down, breathe deeply expelling the fear energies, and put your hand on your heart and say to yourself, “I’m okay. I’m really okay.” And breathe through it. Keep doing that until your energy shifts higher.
Once the fearful thoughts are neutralized, then shift your awareness to that of feeling deeply at peace inside. Feel that peace in your heart area. Really feel the peace of the moment where you are holding peace for yourself. Neutralize the once fearful thoughts using the desired feeling of peace and wellbeing, then you can move forward with your life from that still-point of peace and being in your own power w/o allowing any fear to adversely affect you. You eliminate the fear from your life.
Keep this thought in mind: It’s okay to say NO to other people. It’s okay to create space for yourself. That’s how you take back your power. Clarity often comes with a little bit of solitude where you can actually hear yourself, rather than hearing others barking at you.
Create time for yourself. Take time, like early in the morning, to create in your mind your perfect day ….no matter what you might actually face that day—create YOUR perfect day first in your mind. That’s the energy you want to attract.
What do you really want in your life? That is your new focus. Make the time for yourself to determine what you DO want, and decide what you need to do to get it.
On limiting beliefs expressed around you …If your vibration is high enough, a limiting belief doesn’t matter. …When you are in alignment with your soul, limiting beliefs do not matter because you are able to easily release those beliefs from your consciousness.
But if you find yourself reacting adversely to others, then there is a subconscious program within you that is allowing you to be triggered by the person or the situation. That is actually the opportunity to allow the deeper hidden fear to surface for release. We release those fears to move forward in creating the life we desire. So getting triggered by others is simply a good way to recognize another deeply held fear for your intentional release. (It may not feel like it at the time, but that person is doing you a favor by aggravating you.)
We bring it from the subconscious to consciousness to deal with it.
Bring it from the darkness to the light.
That’s where you can look more closely at it, and then let it go.
You release your fears to feel your true inner peace.
When you are living your true potential, you are living your highest joy.
That is living beyond fear.