When Good Things Happen to Bad People, …. Or Was It Vice-Versa?

Whoa…that’s not supposed to happen is it? Good things happening to bad people?

The largest problem that I see with the statement, let alone the actual happenstance, is with the judgment calls in both directions, and in determining who sits in the decision-making seat on any of it.

It can be so tempting to plop ourselves into that weighty chair and swing that resounding gavel for “Justice and The American Way,” but, “alas poor Yorick,” I’m certain I did not know any of them well enough for that, no matter who the person might be.

People are simply people, with challenges and reactions to whatever each may face in life, from birth onwards.

Some may come into this plane with generous talents and ripe opportunities to express them.

Others may struggle from that first breath onwards—trying to survive, trying to stay alive, trying to make sense of a continued life of senselessness at every life stage. And the most amazing thing about some of those folks is that a few of them actually do survive, do stay alive, and do make a type of sense of any predicament in which they may find themselves.

But it’s also likely that a few other folks will not agree with the conclusion drawn from that life of senselessness, unless it involves overcoming the perceived life-difficulty and attaining a greater sense of higher purpose and collective benefit from it.

Hence we throw around the good vs. bad labels when it comes to people and what they do with their time and their lives.

A society functions under a recognized set of rules for order and sustainability. We have law makers, law enforcers, and law arbitrators. We have judges, prosecutors and defenders, and place to put away those who don’t live within the established rules.

But which ones are good and which ones are bad in any of those categories?hang that chad

Gosh, if you listened to political ads this time of year, it’s a wonder any of us are still alive to think about it because the entire rule-making and enforcing establishment is bad, …or is it good that the other bad choices for governance are less bad, which makes them more good?

I don’t know. I’m so confused. I just know that Election Day can’t come soon enough to end this non-stop nonsense before I wear out the mute button on my TV’s remote control.

Is that a good thing?

Proving Our Worth or Worthiness

Worth and worthiness are similar yet different, but why you would have to prove either of them is far more interesting.

Worth implies “value”—such as, what is your value to a company, to a situation, to others near you, or even to yourself?

But worthiness implies “deserve-ability”—how much do you deserve to be valued?

The latter consideration is far more subjective and judgmental, than actuamoney rolll.

For instance, let’s say you are in late-stages of hiring consideration for a particular job. Despite how negotiable you might believe your future salary to be, Human Resources in most companies have already defined the payment range allowed for that particular job title in that region of the country. They already know what they expect and are willing to pay for that new hire.

When a company considers hiring new staff for any position within that company, HR and management already have a pay-grade allowance defined for the next hire, and they usually hire low on the scale, rather than high. To be offered additional incentives beyond that pre-existing financial determination would be unusual and denote extraordinary circumstances to “merit” such consideration.

At that point, they would go beyond considering your “worth” to the company. They would also consider your worthiness to be given special consideration and additional financial rewards. What makes YOU so special that you deserve that additional financial consideration?

In this situation, to the hiring company your worthiness of special consideration then trumps your recognized worth to them.

What does it mean to you?

Well, beyond all the management-speak above, it may mean your “special consideration” depends on how well you can sell yourself and your abilities to deliver what that company most wants and needs from you.

Or it might mean how extensive and substantial your track record for doing the job already is.

Or it might even mean how much do you value yourself and your time that you might consider selling your efforts for less than you know that you deserve?

In general, women tend to undervalue themselves, and men tend to overvalue themselves. So it often comes down to self-respect and self-appreciation issues within the person. HR departments are well aware of women’s more vulnerable self-value issues.

That doesn’t mean that any candidate is unworthy of special consideration, but it does mean that their “worthiness” to the company is dependent on a number of factors including self-appreciation issues.

In relationships, it plays out in a different way. Consider your significant other or friend to be like the HR manager of the hiring company. Throughout the duration of your relationship they are assessing you for your worth and worthiness to be associated with them, but here, your worth means your value to them—how they consider you in relation to filling their personal needs and wants.

But your worthiness in this situation is not really theirs to consider, it is totally dependent on you!

In a relationship with anyone, you should not have to sell yourself—you should simply have to BE YOURSELF.

Likewise, track-records mean little to nothing in relationships because the choice is yours to learn from your previous mistakes or to continue making them. Just don’t expect a different result if you keep making the same mistakes.

The self-appreciation aspect is absolutely KEY in any relationship, because if you don’t value yourself and support yourself in whatever endeavor you do undertake, then don’t expect the other person to pick up the slack and indefinitely keep feeding your neediness for external support. It just won’t happen. Emotional support neediness gets old fast in any relationship.

If you can’t fully believe in yourself and respect yourself despite your perceived imperfections, don’t expect anyone else to do so. That’s not how the world works and it’s not how you are meant to function.

You have to be your own best friend and your most ardent supporter, whether it is in the workplace, in the classroom, or in the home. Your true self-worth and worthiness are never in doubt. You deserve the best possible life and the best possible friends and close associations. Don’t settle for less than that.

Believe in yopraph quoteourself—value yourself. If others aren’t yet seeing your worth to them, then it is THEIR blindness, because your true value is already established.

But if you doubt your “worthiness” to be loved and valued by others, then that’s totally on you not them.

Then it isn’t their blindness that you need to be concerned with. It’s your own.

Embracing Change, …Or Not

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Strange dream last night: I’m working with a group in an ad agency (one of my many careers was as a Graphic Artist), and we have this defined space for our “stuff” including wall décor and paintings above our areas—sort of our own individual territories within the building that we were located. This was a nice layout—better than any I had actually experienced when working.

The scene shifts to suddenly adding new people, and a truckload of “their stuff” comes in forcing the rest of us (maybe 3 or 4 others) into smaller, more compact spaces on the other side of the building—allowing the NEW folks to have the best layouts with great outside views that we all used to have.

As this scene morphs, I’m watching a new woman of tremendous natural, artistic talent paint a 3’ x 4’ mural instantly, with such precision and confidence that I am mystified at her skill and eye-hand control. I am so awestruck at her abilities that I tell her how amazing her work is, while she looks at me like “Who are you?”

I then wake up and wonder what on earth was that about?

As I’m just lying there staring at the ceiling, it starts to dawn on me that it was all about the ability to embrace change and to recognize that it wasn’t about me individually at all. It wasn’t about my losses or possible injustices due to new mergers or new management, or even being in competition with new talent and creative ideas that weren’t “mine,” or to stew in the natural resentments and jealousy that those situations often fester.

It was all about the ability to embrace change instantly and just “go with it” recognizing that sometimes things happen for the betterment of everyone even if it doesn’t feel that way at the time. From a management view, perhaps new bodies and new juices were needed to kick-start a new direction or to create the climate necessary for a fresh perspective on the company’s purpose.

Clearly, the decision to add new people was above my decision-making grade in the dream and the only thing I could do in the situation was either accept the change quickly in that environment or resent it, fight it, and make myself miserable over it. Or I might have simply left to do my own thing, with all the tremendous change required in that process.

But one way or another it was about the ability to embrace change; and we do so not only to survive, but to thrive. Change is who we are from infancy onwards. None of us are the same height and weight as when we were born. Nor do we have the same reasoning ability and vocabulary.

Change happened or we would all still be noisy little bundles of flesh with dirty diapers—totally dependent on others for our sustenance, welfare and safety. We changed by growing into adult beings who could likewise create those little packages.

So change is not unfamiliar to us, but it isn’t always recognized as being such an integral aspect of the human experience, when it actually is.

Look at the electronics revolution over the last two decades: As a Graphic Artmac 512kist I started with a Mac 512k that took a start-up floppy and a program floppy to operate it. Now, Apple burps out a new system every 6 months and folks line up for days to spend hundreds of dollars (yet again) on the latest and supposedly greatest.

Change may not always seem for the better, but it is change none the less. It just is, and it will continue to be change tomorrow and the day after that.

So try not to fight all that change. Learn to embrace it, allowing it to work for your advantage by showing you a new way of being and doing, and a new perspective on life than you ever thought was possible, if you can simply let yourself change.

Stop all the grimacing and tightening yourself into knots at the very thought of it. Change happens. Let it. Look for the added value of change in your life—embrace the fresh start opportunity to see life again as you once did for the very first time—an adventure to explore where you might be stumbling forward in unsteady steps, but you’re feeling full of excitement and wonder at the mysteries lurking just beyond your chubby fingertips.

Reach out for change. It’s happening whether you accept it or not.

Dismissing the Energies of Confusion, Fear, and Discontent

I was trying to label this latest world-wide, strange energy concoction, because being engulfed in it has me restraining my own combativeness to everything said and done, including some rather unattractive tendencies toward snarliness—much like that tiger in the boat sort of thing.

The nearest explanation I can manage for what is happening to us would be that we are imbibing a strange energy cocktail of confusion, disconflaming cocktailstent, and fear—served on-the-rocks or straight-up—your choice.

It isn’t necessary to cite the most well-known reasons for the unpleasant concoction— if you listen to news anywhere, you are well aware of them. Not to mention it is “political ad season” where slime absolutely drips from the TV screen amid this teeter-tottering, mud-slinging of who is the worst-possible-choice for deciding our future fates.

Astrologically, Tom Lescher, my main astrology guru-guy says it’s all there, mapped out in the heavens: We are getting exactly the very planetary influences that create these feelings of upheaval and roller-coaster emotions for the next two weeks. For those of us more energy sensitive, this latest world-wide mess is way beyond unpleasant. It is explosive—a real test of our highest intention and determination to be unaffected by it all.

I often remind my REIKI students that as they become more energy sensitive, they don’t just feel the awesomeness of the higher-frequencies more—they also become more aware of the opposite energy directions. That’s why as your own frequency rises, it is even harder to be around negative people and unpleasant situations. They pull you down.

It is true that if you can hold your own center and your own frequency high enough and strongly enough for longer periods of time, you can be a positive influence on others simply by being near them, as you help to raise their energy frequencies by your proximity to their energy fields.

But if you can’t hold your own frequency high and keep it there, then negative people and nasty situations can adversely affect your own ability to remain unaffected by them. Even as experienced as I am with situations like these, and as much as I intentionally recharge myself throughout the day to keep my frequency high, it is still difficult to maintain a more positive vibe when this much downer-energy is trying to sink us.

What’s the solution to this bad energy dilemma?dove and lotus

Well, first of all, don’t give in—and don’t give up! Keep raising your frequency as high as you can lift it, staying focused on what you DO want in your life, not on what you don’t. Meditate in a peaceful location and ground yourself into the earth before raising your consciousness ever higher, so that you don’t just lift your own self and your own consciousness as you meditate—you also help to collectively lift us all.

I imagine that is why there are so many of us on the planet at present—we need the numbers right now. We need active participants in creating a better world. We need strong, unified intentions for peace and well-being for everyone. And we need to hold those intentions in a higher frequency than fear can ever hope to touch.

We need you! We need you to say, “Not on my watch, fear! I hold my energies high for peaceful resolutions to conflicts and a better life for everyone.”

Peace and stability may not be the world that you are seeing at present, but it is the world you are actively calling into manifestation with your higher consciousness efforts.

We are far more powerful than we ever believed ourselves to be, and NOW is the time to simply BE IT. BE the Peace. Hold your frequency high and strong, for all of us.

Ripples of Awareness—the TRUST-ability Factor

autumn ripples in pondLike many of you, at times my life has been a puzzle to me. Even now I can’t say that I understand all the details of what is happening in my present life, but I do have some basic ideas about it and I do trust that the Universe (including my own Higher Self) will provide the best possible learning situations for me—which is the WHY aspect that my life happens the way it does.

Actually, TRUST itself is a funny thing. It’s one of those immeasurable, emotive qualities of the human experience. Naiveté was one of my early vulnerabilities that took some difficult encounters to shake that child-like, blind-trust in others out of my system.

It’s not because I’ve become a cynic, but because I’m more realistic now than I was earlier in my life, so I no longer naively expect other people to have my best interests in mind, despite what they might say (i. e., the political ad season). If anything, I expect them to put their own personal agendas first and foremost, because that’s how most people are, even when they pretend to be otherwise.

Yet oddly enough, I do trust Spirit’s highest intentions for me, because trust is one of those things that time either builds or destroys. Time has built my trust in Spirit’s behind-the-scenes, string-pulling and scene-staging, but it has also lessened my trust in the integrity of human intentions and actions.

Over the course of my 30-year, standard work life where I was once a labor-union negotiator, as well as later being a management supervisor, it has shown me the many motivating facets of human interaction from both sides of the negotiating table. Those two perspectives were often very different, but the personal motives behind them were usually similar: People always want the best they can get for their efforts and their money. They just have different ways of interpreting what that means.

I’ve found that most people will always do what they feel is in their own best interests, no matter the situation, even if they are consciously unaware of their own motives for doing so. While some people may have the purest of intentions and normally have the highest ethical standards of conduct, that doesn’t always translate into the purest possible actions because in this Earth-classroom arena, personal-action integrity is quite rare.

I think it is a very unusual person who is so psychologically in-tune with every aspect of what s/he does and why s/he does it, that the person recognizes their own information-filtration biases and automatic responses to whatever life presents to them in each moment.

We can all have the best intentions to be the very best people ever to exist, and then…..life happens, difficulties add up, and patience runs short. We simply react defensively, protectively, and in self-preservation.

We think of ourselves first. That is just how we are programmed to survive. That’s who we are as a species (Homo sapiens) that has successfully evolved for the last 100,000 plus years—by self-preservation over any other concern.

That’s why from a realistic standpoint, I really do trust people to be themselves, and I trust also that they will have their own agendas somewhere in the mix no matter what they might say to counter it. It might be blatantly displayed in the foreground of the conversation or it might be subconsciously concealed if only from themselves, but it’s there, because that’s how we are wired as a species.

So, I can say again, that I do implicitly trust Spirit and my Higher Self to provide the very experience that I will need to best grow my awareness and to further expand my consciousness. But it’s also true that I trust people to simply be people, myself included—full of imperfections and conflicting signals, but doing their best to survive any situation for their own betterment. True selflessness is a genuinely rare trait in a world based on 100,000 years of a species’ survival adaptations. You’ll find it once in awhile, but not often.

With that consideration in mind, it may be easier to trust in ourselves and our own intuitive sensors looking out for our best welfare, rather than relying on the integrity of others, because we have the most to gain or lose in the process.

New Beginnings…Again

Again? How many new beginnings can you have?sunny morn on hills

If every breath is a new one, …and every eye-blink reveals a new view, …and every morning starts a new day, then I guess you can have as many new beginnings as you wish, or at least as many as your personal destiny allows.

Beginning again may simply mean a start-over in intention and direction: a new focus, a new mode of operation, a new decision-making process, a new feeling of freshness and being more alive throughout each day.

It’s often called rebirth, or re-awakening, or the re-invention of one’s self and one’s life. Sometimes it is called “Spiritual Awakening.”

I mention this because I was just asked this question on my NEW website at www.lightfoundations.com . The website represents MY new beginnings, …again.

Short-story version: My old website served its purpose for 15 years until it unfortunately died from “old-software-itis” forcing me to find a new way of making my information available to a new audience. Through the help of a newly found, web-designer friend (Jack Saunsea) who entered my awareness at exactly the same time that my old website died, I have a new beginning… at www.lightfoundations.com . Thanks Jack!

So back to my new website yesterday under the “Q & A Chats” section, this question was asked of “What causes a person to wake-up spiritually?”

Well, you’ll have to go there for my answer at that time, but in essence if we are blessed with sleep at night, then when we do awaken we see the world in a new way each and every morning, because we are not the same person who witnessed the world the day before that. That previous day changed us, as will this day change us, in some way.

Every day is a new one and a new opportunity to see things that we might have previously missed, or a new day to feel more alive than we’ve ever felt, or a new day to sense that there is more to our lives than our work-world’s monotony and drudgery.

Strangely, it often takes feeling so unhappy with the sameness that each day of our lives represents, to make us more likely to desire making a change in our lives so we can experience happiness again.

That’s when those “new beginnings” start to unfold within us, around us, and even surprising us with people who suddenly enter our lives, creating noticeable earthquakes in our normalcy, forcing us to take a new stance—a rebalancing of sorts.

Or you might find just the right web designer to do your much needed new website.

When we suddenly awaken to our true potential and our true feeling of belonging to something greater than ourselves—even if we can’t yet grasp what that is, then something changes in how we see ourselves and how we view everyone around us.

Synjeweled_path_1_ochronicities may begin laying out before us like a jeweled path leading into a magical forest, and we, as the eager travelers of that new and exciting path, can’t wait to set off into the intriguing unknown with only our eager anticipation of what might be, propelling us forward.

So don’t be afraid of your new beginnings if you start experiencing them. They can come as frequently as you allow them to emerge—over and over again.

 

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By Dorset Norwich-Young

Is There a Purpose to Life?

Have you ever questioned the purpose of your existence?

Those “Why am I here? What am I supposed to be doing with my limited time?” questions are initiators of spiritual quests that many of us have undertaken over the course of our lives.

I personally believe that being alive on this earth, at this time, along with all the seemingly random happenings throughout our lives, are intentional occurrences rather than accidental incidents. I also think every tiny aspect of our lives is filled with great purpose pertaining to the “why” aspect of our existing here and now, even if it doesn’t seem that way most of the time.

The largestgolden butterfly problem with this belief that life and all its nuances are intentional, not accidental, is in comprehending the magnitude of what that truly means. Even now, wherever we are in our timelines for this existence, most of us are having difficulty recognizing our “purpose for being here” and may still be struggling to understand the significance of whatever each day presents to us—perhaps even having a hard time in recognizing the blessings within each day as easily as we can decipher the challenges.

Blessings often seem like rewards for a job well done—they may even feel deserved to some degree. Life may have a more synchronistic flow for us when blessings abound in our lives. When life is going really well, we may even take blessings for granted.

But challenges often feel more penalizing in their effect and it seems harder to determine the initiating cause for them. They often feel more undeserved or may seem like we are being cursed for some unknown reason. We may even feel victimized by them.

Actually blessings and challenges are neither rewards nor penalties. They are simply guides and guidelines on the path we walk, as well as being the inanimate, situational teachers who instruct us in reaching ever higher in overall understanding and spiritual evolvement.

Blessings have that wonderful, joyful feel, which resonates so beautifully within our energy field—we like the idea of blessings and feeling blessed. They feel good—which is the energy environment that we crave—to feel good and at peace.

Challenges simply help us to grow our consciousness: to reach higher, to expand our knowledge and adjust our mode of operation toward a new way of seeing, acting, and being that more closely aligns us to experiencing a blessing again.

Challenges are often behavior motivators for positive change in our lives. That’s why blessings feel more like rewards for our efforts than do challenges, because challenges stress us, creating discomfort in our bodies and minds until we can resolve that discomfort in some way to once again feel more at peace inside.

Here is a thought to consider: What if those challenges that you are facing or have faced in the past, were intentionally created to help you shift your perspective on life in some way, and to learn how to react differently to the challenging situation that keeps reoccurring for you?

The intention for that challenge in that instance, might have been to evolve your consciousness and grow your compassion capabilities by strengthening your resolve for change, or by opening your heart with forgiveness for someone’s previous (or continued) transgressions.

Then think about this thought: What if as difficult as any time in your life had been, it was intentionally created for the degree of difficulty that you faced, to challenge your inner resourcefulness and to strengthen your ability to reboot your life into an even more resilient and beneficial direction?

If all the challenges presented in your life to date have been for the purposes of spiritual growth—for upgrading your body, mind, and spirit in some way; does that possible perspective shift toward seeing intentionality in any situation, change your attitude toward your challenging past situations?

Or how does it affect your view and opinion of the challenges you now face in your present life?

I know. It’s likely that they still suck, but at least now, perhaps you can consider that they may suck for a good reason.