“When I was a child…..”

I don’t think this statement was originally intended to frame what I’m going to say about it, but it does apply to a very important aspect of how we, as adults, perceive and react to the world around us.

Corinthians 13:11New King James Version (NKJV)

 When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.”

ImageWhile the often-quoted Bible verse is basically understood to mean that as an adult, you stop thinking and acting like a child, it doesn’t account for what may actually occur to someone in a stressful situation where that person might automatically revert to a child’s perception of the situation, and simply react to the perceived threat in behavior more in line with a child’s defensive posturing or avoidance.

If you’ve never had it happen, that’s great, but many of us have slipped back into seeing a latter-day situation through those child’s eyes and feeling through that child’s fears a few times in our lives.

Unfortunately for ALL of us, many of our present-day perceptions were first forged in our early days of childhood where we had limited comprehension of what was actually happening in our child’s worldview—limited knowledge of the often-staged situations around us and the unstable characters interacting within them—limited knowledge of the ulterior motives of others who told us what to do and how to think—limited knowledge of some folks in our lives perhaps being less than trust-worthy.

As children, we were unaware of our parents having their own biases and solidified views on life and on how the world functioned for them. We may have been drilled on replicating our parents’ opinions of where they stood in that world with us tagging along behind them.

As a vulnerable and moldable child wanting so much to simply be loved and appreciated by those who were supposed to be caring for us, we were like blobs of wet-clay awaiting their sculpting; walking around mimicking mom and dad, and repeating the same preferences and biases that we heard them say, because they seemed to like us better when we said it their way.

We saw in the very ways that they taught us to see, either in very inclusive, broadly-encompassing viewpoints, or we learned to perceive the world and everyone in it, with very exclusive views, and limited considerations for the welfare of others.

Back then when we were first forming our basic self-concepts, the world may have appeared to us as a very wonderful and inviting place open for safe exploring, or as a very dark and threatening place where we had to watch our every step for fear of backlash and pain. Our childhood perceptions simply depended on our known environment—the people, the places, the day-to-day experiences that we learned to call “my life.”

Then to all those child-perceptions of whether or not the world was a safe or a dangerous place, add the early attitude and behavioral Imageinfluence of the parent’s own neuroses, and their personal issues within themselves and with each other, not to mention all the general media mania wherever the child turned for distraction.

The result: Confusing childhood environments create likewise confused adults who often can’t shake that childhood viewpoint that the world around him or her is unreliable and often unsafe, and her only choice in any questionable situation is to react as she has always reacted from childhood onward to survive. The problem is that the child’s natural reaction isn’t always helpful to the present-day stressful situation, and that leads to even more problems for the adult.

I don’t think I’m alone in believing that many perceptual and behavioral problems in today’s adults stem from their childhood environmental influences—from those earliest times when they spoke, understood the world around them, and thought as a child.

While that present-day adult may well be a man or a woman who is trying to put away all those childish ways of seeing and acting in the world, the perceptions and information filters of how threatening or how wonderful the world presently seems to that person, was created long ago in that child’s early-learning environment by caregivers and parents who made the child feel either safe or unsafe, and may have set the stage for all the child’s expectations on life to follow.

To successfully deal with the world around us, including our existing relationships as well as for achieving our personal life-goals, we need to make sure that our present-day perceptions match our present-day adult reality. We need to know that we’re not still reacting to whatever appears before us with the viewpoint of a more fearful or insecure child who simply wants to feel safe and loved amidst the turmoil around him, or to feel acknowledged and supported wherever she or he is.

That child’s reactive mind simply wants to experience the kindness and appreciation of others, not have to rely on adult-learned coping skills when stressful situations arise. But for the adult who is still using the child’s perceptive filters and reactions, what comes out instead is the child’s learned coping skills, which are far more limited and usually inappropriate at the time.

So what is the solution for better facing life’s difficulties when you find yourself still seeing, speaking, and understanding as the child?

Well personally, I don’t think you have to put away those childish things that you once enjoyed, because I think some of those childish things are kind of nice to keep, as well as the ability to see again through those more innocent and openly receptive eyes—to be able to believe again that the world has infinite possibilities for niceness and joy, because, as it turns out, that belief is merely a perspective. It is a choice of how one can view life.

However, if your actual childhood experience has NOT been one of love, joy, hope, compassion and generosity, then we can’t really change the historical content of your life, but I can help you reframe it through hypnosis to gain greater understanding from those previous situations—soften the memory’s harshness, so to speak.

AnImaged if you desire a better life based on maintaining a more hopeful and positive point of view by developing a core belief system that values love, joy, hope, compassion and generosity, I can also help you do that by creating those very images in your mind and help to provide NEW memories for you to resource during times of stress.

That is the value of hypnosis—it can not only change an attitude or a perspective.  It CAN also improve a life.

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Changing a Mind

This title is performing double-duty.

I began by starting to write about yesterday’s ‘sitting at the kitchen table’ situation of explaining what Past-Life Exploration was to a more skeptical friend, and how it was my patient, detailed response to her scowling question of “Why would anyone want to do that?” that inspired this title; meaning how my re-enactment for her of what actually occurred during a Past-Life Exploration, ‘changed her mind’ about Past-Life Exploration mid-description.

It was a pretty amazing transformation right there in the oak captain’s chairs with her elbows planted on the table placemats. The more in-depth I went into how a PLE session progressed, the more her frowny-face began changing to one of peaked interest and then excitement, at the prospect of possibly experiencing Past-Life Exploration for herself.

That was an awesome experience for me in a most unexpected place! I had just witnessed a genuine perspective shift in her while I was talking, where she quickly dropped those preconceived, erroneous notions of what she assumed PLE would be and opened her mind to other possibilities of how it COULD be.

But even above when I began to write just a few sentences about the experience, I realized that Basic Hypnosis itself is all about changing a mind—changing a client’s patterns of perception and information filtration to create more desirable attitudes and behaviors as requested by them. I had just unintentionally demoed at the kitchen table, how to shift a client’s perspective.

For my friend, I wasn’t hard-selling PLE Imageto her. I was merely walking her through the standard process of how I conduct a session and demonstrating the actual questions that I asked to help gather information that was provided by the client themselves during the experience.

I don’t tell a client where to go or what to see and do during their PLE. I only ask the questions to help them describe their experience while it’s occurring. Their sub- and super-conscious minds are controlling the content—where they go—what they see—what they do, while their conscious mind takes a much-deserved break.

I’m just the tour-guide and the documenter of their experience. I help keep them safe and connected to that part of them still relaxing comfortably in the recliner with me at their side, while they explore the vastness of their own eternal being.

But then, the more I thought about it, I realized that Hypnosis itself is all about ‘changing a mind.’

That is the very thing that client’s seek when they come to me with a problem of some sort—they come for ‘mind-changing’—that’s what they want, and that’s the service that I provide them.

I help them change how information is processed in their mind—how they perceive raw info around them by all their senses—how they filter the effects of what they perceive (this is good—that is bad, sort of filtering) for emotional impact—how they integrate the information and experience into their internal filing system for later review (into memories)—and how they can change that entire process if it isn’t meeting their needs.

They can actually change their mind: figuratively and literally.

So, when someone asks me what I do, and I hand them a brochure on Hypnosis and Past-Life Exploration, and they give me that scowling, pre-judgmental look, I think, “Well, my friend…get ready to change your mind.”

High-ground Perspective

“High above the valley, crouched on a peak concealing any view from below, the lookout squinted into the morning sun, watching the early activity in the intruder’s camp far, far beneath him. From this secluded perch, he could see miles in all directions—see what was coming before it got there—allowing preparation time for his fellow band of tribesmen.”

ImageFor every century over the last 10,000 years, the above scenario could have been written as factual documentation, instead of fiction—it existed anywhere there were intruders into someone else’s home region, with regional tribesmen claiming that territory as their own.

For all, the high-ground gives perspective advantage over those who have more limited range of vision. It’s a tactic utilized by surveillance scouts and snipers in present-day military units. But with the present-day use of drones and satellite surveillance, there are simply fewer eyes squinting into the sun and fewer bodies in camouflaged garb hiding behind the rocks.

In more philosophical terms, when someone refers to that high-ground perspective, it is often called moral superiority—a place of higher ethical and professional standards of consideration and conduct—of one being capable of seeing the “bigger picture.”

What high-ground perspective actually may be is subject to individual interpretation; but overall, it refers to perceiving a situation from a more distant and longer-range vantage point—where consequences of all subsequent actions are first weighed and assessed before proceeding appropriately.

So much of our present world-wide energetic chaos makes it difficult to achieve that high-ground perspective to see what is approaching in the distance so we can more appropriately prepare for it. All we can tell at present is that everything is one big mess.

And the drones and satellites can’t really scope out this dilemma, because it is often a moral issue, and a ‘trust’ issue, and an “only time will tell” outcome. It’s a test of being true to our own inner beliefs on what is right for ourselves and for others; as well as a test of how well we can hold inner peace in the midst of combative environments, around and even within us.

Change is change. It comes, it affects, and it leaves everything and everyone different in its wake.

If we can perceive the situation around us from that high-ground vantage point to see what awaits us in the distance and to prepare for that inevitability, then we at least feel that we have some advance notice of what to expect in the future.

But when we can’t see that far ahead or that far afield, then we can only take what occurs when it occurs. And that is perhaps the hardest aspect—to let go of any apprehension within us, and simply allow the situation to unfold as it will, because larger forces of change seem to be at work in the process.

I’ve been talking about the energies of chaos and change for some time now, because that’s the energies that have been engulfing us for months, and some would say, years.

So how do YOU handle change—especially intense change? I think many of us would prefer to handle it better than we are at present.

For doing that, my suggestion would be to take a deep breath, re-center yourself, do some meditation on feeling at peace; and then ask yourself what you really want in your life. Once you determine ‘what you really want in your life,’ then make that your focus. Let the rest of the world sort through whatever is happening in whatever way it needs to happen, and simply focus on your personal goals, by staying as calm and centered as you possibly can.

Take that high-ground perspective and see what there is to see when you can see it, but when you can’t see that far into the future, then simply wait patiently until there is actually something to see.

“The Times They Are A’changin’”

That title is an old mid-60’s Bob Dylan song, but it’s still applicable because the times definitely are changing now; and all of us are changing as well.Image

Sometimes things around us change, and we have to do like-wise; and other times for some reason, we change inside and it forces outside changes around us.

Sometimes we don’t even know what is changing, but things around us seem different and we feel differently about things, and the world seems different to us in some way, even if it doesn’t initially appear to be so.

This morning I read someone’s opinion on what is happening energy-wise during this year of 2014, and in many ways I agree with their take on the situation, pertaining to the kinesthetic feel of the energies around me this year, as well as their intuitive read on what I sense is happening to all of us and our situations.

We’re getting ‘all shook up’—(thank you Elvis)—and it is a major rug-shaking experience that is shaking us out of our collective apathy and lethargy, and helping to clear our vision so we can shift perspective for the next phase of change in all of our lives. Because believe it or not, the times really are changing and we have to be able to recognize that change and utilize it to evolve our consciousness to match it.

People change, situations change, relationships change, associations change,….and like a river, life just keeps flowing onward to the sea. Stagnation really isn’t possible now, because change is being forced on all of us. It’s a bit like getting caught in a flash-flood. It’s just a question of how willing you are to change direction to avoid the disaster before you or to plow forth into the waters and futilely struggle against the overpowering current.

Change is change. It just IS. And sometimes, it is necessary to change.

I imagine it will affect all of us in the near future, and perhaps it is already doing so; and to this I simply say, “The Times They Are A-changin’” and like it or not, so are all of us.

Simply Being Ourselves

Long ago, as a young woman in my early 20’s, I remember asking aloud this question: “What is so wrong about being who I really am?”

Took a few decades of experience to answer it simply as “Wrongness isn’t even a consideration in my life, as long as I’m doing what I feel I’m meant to do to help others while being true to my own inner calling.”

For many of us, during the course of our lives, we discovered there were “others” more than willing to offer their unsolicited opinions of what we should be, and what we should do with our lives and our time. Fortunately, most of us eventually learned that the only opinion that truly mattered about our life’s direction was our own.

For some, it took decades of hard-fought experience to reach this realization. I know that I value the efforts it took for me personally to be here now where I presently am, doing what I’m doing to help others in some way. Some might feel it’s unconventional, but I view it as innovative and pioneering.

The important point is this: No one has a right to tell any of us what we will and won’t do, unless we give them that right. No one can take that right from us, unless we allow it to be taken. We always have a choice in the matter. We can say NO when necessary to do so, because sometimes it is necessary to say it.

I know that I am being true to myself with the choices I make: I’m being who I am, doing what I feel that I came here to do. I feel most at peace when I am simply being ME.

Isn’t that what we all want: to simply be ourselves, …and not be forced into someone else’s interpretation of what we’re allowed to be or do?

As depicted in the picture from the internationally Imageknown psychic, James Van Praagh’s website, “We all want the same things: love, acceptance, respect.”

In essence, we’re really not that different from each other. But we do have different ideas on how to live our lives.

Respect the difference. Accept the difference. And love the fact that it takes courage to stand up tall and strongly for what we believe in, including believing in ourselves and our Divine Right …to simply BE ourselves.

June’s Resolution

As we once again enter the time of Mercury in Retrograde (June 7th-July 2nd), the dis’s will now give way to the re’s: reexamining, reevaluating, reassessing, readjusting, redoing, removing, and releasing. All of those re’s are aspects of resolution, where the previous dissonance is now resolved—that 7th chord finally reaches the next octave root to make a harmonious return to home-base.

ImageI wasn’t always a fan of astrology and I’m certainly no authority on it, but I grew to respect certain aspects of planetary alignment once I better understood how they affect the energy that flows over our planet and all of us because of how the sun’s rays (and the cosmic energy from others suns in far off galaxies) pinball off all the other objects out in space before they find their way into our energy environment.

We are like little barometers of energy intensity around us. We react to those unseen energy forces in some predictable ways; and that predictability is what makes astrology function as a mechanism for predicting energy behavior, and likewise, human behavior, because we are energy units ourselves.

You can almost detect the audible groans of informed people in today’s world upon hearing these dreaded words: “Mercury is going retrograde”—in realization of what that likely means: not only will there be computer and phone problems, but it’s possible that all forms of communication will go haywire—electronic and personal.

And it’s definitely not the best time for starting new endeavors. However, it’s a great time for reflecting and reevaluating the old ones. Mercury in retro usually means difficulty in relaying information and intentions, because symbolically, Mercury is “the messenger.”

To me, this time simply means “proceed with caution” in interactions and all forms of communication; and to ground-down my energy before I even touch my computer or phone in the morning, as any static-energy transfer can zap an electronic device. (Yes, been there, done that, and I know a few of you have as well.)

So take some time to relax, reflect and reevaluate your present situations, but also take the time to refresh, renew, and rejuvenate yourself and your intentions. This can be an excellent time to just be good to yourself. Have some fun and enjoy your life.

After all, you deserve it!  No miscommunication there.