One Last Chance to Visit 3 Presenters from the “Understanding Narcissism” Summit

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Just saw the email from Tami Simons (Sounds True) on a last chance to hear Caroline Myss’s presentation that I wrote about earlier, ( https://content.soundstrue.com/understanding-narcissism-summit-encore?utm_source=bronto&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=C191116-UNS-Sell4&utm_content=Myss,+Hanson,+and+Neff+-+Free+Encore+Presentations&_bta_tid=09528543415476418810300132756200661561082200615837475413618082489837536028413298474285896175960726012765&_bta_c=azpcfyz2d505smzjcvmh15bka8yxt),  as well as two additional presenters, one of which I am reviewing here today.

This one is called “Healthy Confidence” by Rick Hanson, PhD.  Initially I didn’t understand (or appreciate) why Rick’s focus was on looking for a healthy approach to milder aspects of narcissism. So today when I listened again, I did so with the consideration that for some reason Tami and Jeffery thought that out of the 20 presenters listed, not only Caroline was offered again (which I easily 4dbb3d925440f266e9f3a71eaca87e9c.jpgunderstood), but also offered again for some reason was Rick Hanson’s presentation which to me represented the counter argument for considering mild forms of narcissism as building blocks for establishing a sense of solid self-esteem.

Then I listened more closely to what Rick was actually stressing here and he sounded very “Dr. Joe Dispenza” to me—more about healing yourself by holding the higher love-frequency emotions and using positive reinforcement to establish new patterns of brain function.  Then it made sense why he was offered as an encore. It was a positive presentation of helping others to help themselves in terms of self-worth.  Here are a few quotes:

“It’s about narcissism vs. self-worth—helping people develop (constructive) concepts of true self-worth to help those (more destructive) narcissistic tendencies fall away. Narcissists have a hollowness inside—an emptiness that they keep trying to fill with external recognition and a fair amount of self-preoccupation.  …”

He researched mother-toddler pairs and how those interactions created the solidity or lack-thereof in early childhood development.  “ …dismissive or indifferent early-childhood care-givers often created the void felt by infants that later led to excessive self-focused behaviors…”  It involved negative enforcement for undesirable infant behavior rather than a positive approach to desirable behaviors. … meaning, caregivers ignoring crying, disruptive behaviors, etc.

“It’s not abusive parental behavior, as it is simply a behavioral modification style that the parent believes is necessary and beneficial to the child and family in the long run, but which actually creates a feeling of unmet needs in the infant and child. … the child has yearnings for personal connection and love—to feel cared for and appreciated…these are normal human needs that are then met or unmet by the style of the caregiver. …

“Feelings of low worth and insecurity lead to self-preoccupation of feeling inadequate or insecure that push away the needs of other people in favor of fulfilling their own.  Overt narcissism is an endless pulling of social supplies from other people to fill that hole in the heart. …

“How do we grow healthy self-confidence? …How do we heal that old pain of never being good enough or adequate enough? … (Hungry ghost stuff). …

“Self-directed neuro-plasticity ….any kind of lasting change psychologically must be your-neurotransmitters-and-.jpgthrough lasting change physically. We become less demanding of others…we can be in relationships without making it all about ourselves. … especially create changes in the nervous system and the brain that make lasting learning… neurons that fire together wire together… help the experience leave a lasting physical experience behind to provide a memory that fuels our desirable behavior change.  …We become active agents of our own process of healing and transformation … Have the experience and enjoy it—really enjoy it—help those neurons form physical structures of brainwave patterns.  Stay with a positive experience for a few breaths to help it solidify in your brain. … somatic experiences—body sensations help us retain the benefits of the experience.  It is a rewarded feeling—we are being positively reinforced about our experience and it releases dopamine and serotonin in the brain.  Those ‘feel good’ chemicals released into our bloodstream that helps us feel good about ourselves.  …

“When we feel our worth, it represents something that we feel is true. We recognize it as a positive experience—we feel good about it. See it—feel it—internalize it. …

“Four major sources of self-worth (or self-confidence)—how you fill yourself up to feel good about yourself despite what others might think about you:

  • The 1st is to feel ‘cared about or caring’, …authentic experiences of warm-heartedness or altruistic love.index.jpg
  • 2nd is recognizing your own good qualities—natural talents, disciplined, hard-worker, perseverer, etc.
  • 3rd is experiencing and recognizing your true nature deep down—wakefulness, goodness, lovingness, Buddha-nature, childlike innocence, delight in existing, good wishes toward others, wishing to help others,
  • 4th is forgiving yourself, …self-compassion, healing shame, letting go of criticism, pardoning yourself but taking accurate responsibility for your actions and then moving forward in positive ways toward a better way of being.” ….

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Jeffery: “How does this process soften narcissistic tendencies?” 

Rick:  “I’ve seen when people do this simple receiving practice of filling themselves with love and positive experience, they feel ‘more full’ inside, it lessens their craving for unmet needs, and tames craving of needing the opinions and acceptance of others.  They feel less a sense of deficit—of something missing because that person has then learned how to self-fulfill themselves with positive feelings of true self-worth. …”  

Jeffery:  “…so you don’t have to reduce narcissistic tendencies, you simply have to build a greater sense of true self-worth?”

Rick:  “With therapeutic help and cultivating a larger shift in perspective, it helps to regulate the ‘need factor’ of how we tend to use others for fulfilling own sense of worth.”

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Okay. That is my quick-take of Rick Hanson’s presentation and his professional opinions as a practicing psychologist and a therapist, and to some degree I assume his techniques may be successful with those who have milder narcissistic tendencies, but with those who are severely narcissistic and primarily self-focused, I just can’t imagine that this treatment is truly and lastingly effective.  But again, that is just my opinion, and what do I know anyway. … 🙂

But I do agree with giving a child a healthy sense of self-worth, and in defining what the difference is between narcissism and actually creating a healthy sense of self-worth.

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To that end I could more easily agree with Dr. Kristin Neff who was also offered on the page, on the ‘difference between self-esteem and self compassion’ and the importance of standing up for oneself against a malignant narcissist.

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What Is True Authenticity?

If you can actually answer that spiritual question posed here of “What is TRUE authenticity?” then the next question would be “Then how do you define SELF-realization?”  (Wow, shades of Paramahansa Yogananda’s revelations on SELF-REALIZATION)—which is from the same ‘self-awareness era’ that A.H. Almaas reminds me of when I first read his “Diamond Approach” book a few years ago.  He was an early pioneer of self/TRUE SELF-realization back in the 70’s-80’s, when Yogananda’s epic Hindu philosophy was fairly popular.

The analysis of TRUE AUTHENTICITY all comes back to answering the basic questions of whoamihand (1).jpgWho am I?  What is my TRUE identity? Am I strictly a physical being ruled by my biology and pathology? Or am I an elusive spiritual entity seemingly trapped in an earth-bound physical body—constantly yearning to return to my True Higher Source from which I came?

These are all good questions, and ones I’ve certainly been asking myself for the last 30 years.

These old gems are surfacing again now because I’m currently understandingnarcissismst.jpglistening to A. H. Almaas (founder of the Diamond Approach®), on “how narcissism became an impediment to spiritual awakening”. (It’s Day 7 of the same “Understanding Narcissism” series from Sounds True, like the Caroline Myss presentation from a few days ago.)  According to Almaas,

“when you move from simply experiencing your spiritual nature, to BEING it—meaning, when you move from somebody who is experiencing the spiritual experience to BEING the spiritual experience itself—THAT is self-realization. …

…The Self here is NOT defined by the MIND in your self-identity—meaning: You are NOT who you erroneously delude yourself that you are—your self-identity may not be a pure representation of WHO you really are, but may instead be an aggregation of who you have been told that you are, who you wish that you were, and who you often act like in actual daily life.  It’s your self-representation—NOT your true self-identity.

Tami Simon pins him down pretty well here trying to sharpen his focus: “OK, and what you’re saying is this constellation of self-representations, self-images, self-identification with my body, with my name, with my place in the world, that this is all inherently narcissistic, because it’s not actually essential, stripped down, not what I actually AM in this moment without referencing memories and self-representations.”

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Almaas responds with “That is TRUE.  There is another way of looking at it,….it has nothing to do with instability and insecurity in the sense of self—a sense of false  identity. …now in spiritual work, the EGO is ultimately unstable and insecure because it is NOT who we really are.  So true challenges to our experience will show it (the EGO) to be fragile.  It may not be obvious in our experience, but when we come to something extraordinary or profound, the EGO is shaken. …because it’s NOT who we really are. …We are more than that.” …

…”In your old age, when you’ve lived your life and all that, when you come to the end of your accomplishments, where does your VALUE come from?  When you’re forgotten about, when you come to the end of what other people think of you, when you come to your actual self—where does your TRUE value come from?

For spiritually-realized people, value gushes out from inside.  It is inherent to the TRUE Self—that is SELF-REALIZATION.  The TRUE SELF is pure sense of preciousness, goodness, and beauty.  So its value is intrinsic and inherent. It does not need accomplishments.

…But in a realized person, those things are an expression of something deeper. And because of that, their actions and activities have a lot to do with benefiting others instead of simply benefiting oneself. ..So Ego is inherently self-centered. …But a realized person doesn’t think of others as different than oneself—they are naturally loving and caring, …not self-centered—self-focused.  …How do I feel? …I feel like my heart is full of some kind of richness, a richness, a fullness, a sort of sweetness, a kind of love, …a love that is an inherent higher value.  I, being ME, is PURE VALUE.  I don’t need others to see that value. I feel it—I am IT—which is a far cry from somebody who wants their value to be seen and acknowledged by others to feel a sense of value within themselves. … 

We are the SELF that is not created by the actions of time…. It simply IS—it infinitely exists as the ‘I AM’. THAT is SELF-REALIZATION—the direct recognition that I am the ‘I AM’. “

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“Narcissism: the Evolution of Consciousness” per Caroline Myss

One of the nice things about Facebook (at least for those of us who do still use it) is the ability to receive info offers from sources that might appeal to you.  One of those info sources for me is “Sounds True” (founder is Tami Simon) who often provides FREE (with limited-time availability) psychology-related summits that I find both interesting and informative.  And if I think these summits are interesting enough for sharing, I usually provide a link here so that others can view the materials for themselves if they wish.understandingnarcissismst.jpg

Lately I’ve been listening daily to the latest Sounds True summit on “Understanding Narcissism” (Day 5 yesterday) within the 24-hour FREE time periods for each day: “Understanding Narcissism Summit with 20 leading experts in psychology and spirituality.”

The gist of this summit’s importance is “that as Americans, we are living in an era of narcissism: social media addiction, overall lack of presence and empathy, and increased societal division”; that and the current resident of the Oval Office demonstrates daily what being a Malignant Narcissist entails, so if you wanted to better understand him, here is the chance with this summit.  Overall I think it’s a timely and interesting presentation of 20 leading authorities on the subject matter of narcissism in general.  (And yes, some folks are more interesting than others to me.)

https://content.soundstrue.com/understanding-narcissism-summit-registration?fbclid=IwAR164Zqw4ukx4AIDDDNo3sqhDTSw9VlsVJwDmsiQxWJabeuJto8DKTBU2xM

Overall for the Sounds True folks, the focus is on first understanding what is really happening to us personally as well as culturally in this current narcissistic group dynamic, and then determining how best to shift the current narcissistic focus from ME to WE to mend the deep social divisions in our country.

Yesterday I was hearing Day 5’s presentations beginning with Caroline Myss, who is considered more so a spiritual teacher than the other psychologists and therapists carolmyss456.jpgwho had been presenting prior to her, and one I’ve been listening to over the last two decades.  Initially to me she seemed a strange choice for this particular summit, but then she began talking about overviews and the BIG PICTURE of why this era of narcissism is happening to us as a group consciousness, so I naturally perked up to hear her unique thoughts on the subject matter of “narcissism as being a stage of consciousness” that we are meant to go through in our own soul’s evolution.

A few sentences in, she shifted the entire summit for me from “how to treat narcissism and those affected by the malignant narcissist that they may work or live with daily” to WHY we as a society and culture are “exploring” the archetype of Narcissist right now; and then everything shifted in my head to better see the reasoning for those socially chaotic decades of my own life during the time period from late 60’s to the present.

According to Caroline during the turmoil of the late 60’s, youth felt “the need to break away to discover our individuality—our individual self—to launch on the journey of our INNER SELF—to find out what am I capable or—what am I made of?  The 60’s was a decade of REVOLUTION.  That sense of ‘I’m not going to take this anymore—you can’t tell me what to do—you can’t send me to war I don’t understand… Revolution was the first phase of breaking out of a Tribal thought-form—this is archetypal.  In the 60’s this template began, and it was collective. It exploded—it downloaded into our global soul and the REVOLUTION began (to separate ME from WE)….the sense of INNER SELF and PERSONAL was born. ..Now when we are in the revolutionary stage—the BIRTH of the SELF—you may know what you ‘won’t take anymore’, but you may not know what you WILL take—or what you DO want.  You don’t know what you DO want—all you know is that when you are revolting, ‘you know what you do NOT want’ and ‘what you will NOT accept’. …’I won’t take this anymore’…you are revolting against the control of a system or a person or a structure to control how you perceive reality.  That’s important for you to understand that. …What’s controlling your perceptions—what’s controlling your capacity to respond—to make choices. And another way for you to understand this is to reduce it—condense it—to something that makes sense to you—YOU DON’T WANT YOUR POWER CONTROLLED so you are revolting against those who try to control your ‘power to decide for yourself’.” 

Wow! Bingo! That’s it completely. It took this personal revolt from the accepted norm to get us to this point in awareness, but now we must evolve further to survive our own self-focus. She continued:

“Out of that revolution of the 60’s came the ‘collective permission’ to pursue something that never existed before , called the Inner Self. So we collectively gave birth to a hybrid EGO that we never had before. …We had a survival Ego but we never had this collective ‘Inner-Self’ focus. carolinemyssportrait678.jpg

…Another thought-form that made its way into the Collective at this time, which was a gargantuan and mystical truth but it came in kind of a ‘pop-camp’ package, was that WE CREATE OUR OWN REALITY. …Now while at a mystical level we participate in the creation of our own reality, ..that profound mystical teaching got translated into kind of a pop-culture way which says ‘I can choose whatever I want, I’m free to do whatever I want, and I create my reality, and there it is! …It’s not unlike the way the Churches took the profound teachings of Jesus and reduced them to the politics of the CHURCH so that you don’t even see those profound , mystical teachings that later had to come through Saint Francis of Assisi or Theresa of Avila. ..This mystical sense of spirituality that exploded within us in the 60’s—that produced this longing in us to find our own path—the Spirit that lit up our nuclear power base—it compelled people in the 60’s to seek what was named ‘this Spiritual Path.’  And that caused people to break away from the Tribe. …and the slightest Tribal shift is going to get a repercussive reaction from members of the Tribe.  So we formed our own Tribe—of Spiritual seekers—so we went from one traditional tribe to another Tribe of outrageous individuals who called themselves Hippies, … they had to strike out at the beginning of this movement of finding the Inner Self.  ..This movement eventually laid the groundwork for what we call Narcissism…the Narcissist—the you can’t tell me what to do—I need to find myself.  This is how the momentum began that literally launched this tremendous appetite and permission to go our own way. 

60’s blended into 70’s, Hippies grew up and had children of their own and gradually moved into the 2nd stage of revolution is INVOLUTION. … Once you say I don’t want this—you will always retreat inside—to look within to see what you Do want. …now you listen for the voice of the INNER SELF to know what you Do want. ..Now you’re in a different field of power—now it’s clear you have to make a choice. ..You are shifting from having been controlled to feeling a different voice.  The 70’s was an involution decade.  But what came out of that was exactly what came out of you…you start piecing together a path.  You start asking yourself ‘What do I need?’ and it always begins with the discovery and existence of your inner self. ..Now you realize that nothing begins without SELF-ESTEEM.  Self-esteem will become a part of this journey of you putting yourself together.  Of you developing a voice. ..Of you becoming a whole person. …Enter the 1980’s—The DECADE OF THE NARCISSIST.  And now we move into the stage of you becoming a Narcissist—the essential stage and the risky stage.  This was the decade that gave rise to Narcissism—the decade in many ways, in which we are psychically stuck.

This is why we need the Narcissistic Phase:  We need it because breaking away from the Tribal Journey requires a great deal of inner-self stamina, lest you get reeled back in. …

What’s going on here at a very different level is that we are all of us on a track of discovering the power of our own soul to participate in acts of creation—that in fact every word we say sets in motion an act of creation… that every thought results into setting energy into motion…that every feeling sets sparks of energy into creation…that every choice we make is this moment in time where we need to ascend to a level of inner knowledge where we truly understand that we are vessels of creative power and that is the nature of God within us and around us.  The nature of God is expressed through the creative laws of the Universe—that we are governed by these laws….

…That we are a species participating in a constant flow of all that is created. …We are becoming hyper-sensitive—hyper-aware of our own selves—we are becoming Narcissistic –but in fact it is a hyper-awareness of our own creative ability. …to impact our biology and impact the biology of others.  In this journey of becoming aware of the power within us, but it has brought us to the illusion of our own significance—but it is the power that is significant—not ourselves wielding it. …We need to become mindful enough to manage ourselves. Like a spiritual art-form to move through the dark side of Narcissism…where we embrace our shadow-side self—sense of self-importance—and move beyond it—the words we say are important in their power—but not that WE are important in saying them.  When we believe that WE are the center of the universe, is the dark side of narcissism.  When we feel entitled—‘blame, deserve, entitlement’ are the sources of your greatest suffering on earth.  We need to humble up. … We need to recognize and reclaim our true power, but not focus on our personal ability to do so. It’s not about us—it’s about the ability we all have to create with intention….

narcissism2.jpgThe task of the Narcissist is to ‘Get Over Yourself’. ..we need to mature into a level of self-awareness—self-management—self-accountability. You become a high-functioning individual …who returns to the human tribe with a sense of community, as you affect all others in what you do.  ‘What I do affects the whole.’  That is the new Theology. …My personal spiritual ecology is part of the ecological system of the Earth itself.  …That is the NEW Theology.  …What I do is then done to the whole.  Narcissism is the state of awakening to your own power, or NOT.  …See through the illusion of personal importance…. Healing occurs when you see beyond taking things personally.  The Universe is not personal.  It is archetypal.  I can choose to be detached from the personal and work instead with mystical truths. …

“Narcissists delude themselves into thinking that they can control the entirety around them.  They try to do that very thing.” …

“You’ve been given a life and a task and one of those tasks is to become fully you… and you have to trust ‘that journey of becoming fully you’ is what you were meant to do. But at the same time, that does NOT make you ‘special’—you are simply one of many journeying in their own ways—but we are always journeying together. You aren’t here by yourself. ..The spiritual path is about Truth—about you discovering what is REAL—and you are able to manage yourself and your power without compromising it by your shadow and your EGO-focus.  …The Spiritual path is about courage.  It’s not about your personal accomplishment—it is about finding your inner truth and then recognizing it as such. …”   ~Caroline Myss.

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[In truth I did not intend to type so much of what she said during her presentation, but I soon realized that with only an hour left of FREE viewing, no one would be able to catch her talk without paying to hear it.  So I transcribed most of it here because it is extremely pertinent and powerful.  At least in this way you could actually catch it.]

 

Lee Harris on the November Energies

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After listening to this video I feel practically prescient with my article October 21st on “When Things Go Wrong,” talking about the collective energies that we are currently experiencing.  🙂

From how awful the current energies are, to our need to stay alert and pay better attention to what is happening to and around us; even to the necessity to simply be a better listener and be less prone to automatically “react” to everything that we see and hear.

Anyway, I nodded my way through most of his video and I think it’s worth a listen.

[ And what works for me as a re-focuser is during stressful situations, or when I’m feeling extremely agitated or have those uncomfortable, naturally-reactive emotions, is to simply sit down, take a few very deep breaths, close my eyes and say aloud, “I release the energies of __________ (fear, anxiety, sadness, anger, jealousy, pain, etc.—whatever you might be feeling at the time).  I release them completely now.  They do not serve me.”  And then forcefully blow those nasty thoughts and emotional energies out of your mouth at least 3 times.  Then just sit quietly for a few minutes with your eyes closed and see if your attitude has shifted higher. (Meaning: Do you now feel more relaxed and at peace?)   If it didn’t help shift your attitude or your energies, then do it all again—1st the release statements, then 3 breaths blowing out forcefully, and then taking a calm full breath again to relax your body and sitting quietly for a few minutes to see if you notice a change. ]

 Lee’s November video:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FkfRTrX_IDo&feature=youtu.be

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  • CRAZY GETTING CRAZIER
  • IDENTITY SHIFT
  • THE POWER OF LISTENING

 

–CRAZY GETTING CRAZIER. When I was tuning in a couple of days ago about November and beyond, this was one of the messages that I got. The ‘crazy’ in the outside world is getting ‘crazier’ – so if you’re able to constantly reconcile your own feelings and thoughts and separate what’s yours from the crowds – you will be able to stay more balanced, more centered and more able to be part of what is needed during these times.

— IDENTITY SHIFT. Apparently, a lot of us are going through that Identity Shift right now. It’s going to get stronger and louder than ever in November and continue for a good three to six month period. Some of you will be entering into this big Identity Shift now and it relates to your personal power (as I mentioned in the October Energy Update). Those of you that own your power or are taking on your power are about to go through an Identity Shift. That might just look like changes but it can also look like huge upgrades.

–Last but not least on the POWER OF LISTENING. When we’re able to really listen to others in a deep way, we may notice that someone’s words might be saying one thing but their tone and their energy might be saying something completely different. All of us can reach that place where we are feeling a little off or a little off center. The power of listening to others and the power of listening to ourselves is very important. So, do regular check-ins and deeply listen to your answers.

Have a beautiful month everyone!  Big love X  – Lee Harris

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The Brain as Receiver

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“There is a fundamental field of information that is the source of our consciousness. Consciousness is not an epiphenomenon of your brain; it’s actually something that your brain is tuned into like a radio is tuned to a set of information.” – Nassim Haramein

(Image: visualizing your antenna & field interactions)

 

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Nikola Tesla

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Video Nugget: The Brain As A Receiver of Consciousness with Marjorie Woollacott, PhD

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https://www.bing.com/videos/search?q=brain+as+receiver+of+consciousness&view=detail&mid=8BDB8D4B347B5F5DA1998BDB8D4B347B5F5DA199&FORM=VIRE

“…The brain acts as a filter of the greater consciousness; we filter parts of the total information input available to us. …Our nervous system has to filter the information into digestible pieces for us to make sense of our universe. … The experience of non-local awareness is infinity—the ALL—total consciousness—experiencing the whole Universe at one moment. …Simultaneously, Great Sages who experience this non-local awareness, can be functioning at the local awareness level interacting in their filtered way with the people around them very effectively. …”

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The following is excerpted from The Intelligence of the Cosmos by Ervin Laszlo, published by Inner Traditions.

“…On the basis of a growing series of observations and experiments, a new consensus is emerging. It is that “my” consciousness is not just my consciousness, meaning the consciousness produced by my brain, any more than a program transmitted over the air would be a program produced by my TV set. Just like a program broadcast over the air continues to exist when my TV set is turned off, my consciousness continues to exist when my brain is turned off.whatisreaklitylaslobk.jpg

Consciousness is a real element in the real world. The brain and body do not produce it; they display it. And it does not cease when life in the body does. Consciousness is a reflection, a projection, a manifestation of the intelligence that “in-forms” the world. …”  Ervin Laslo

 

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Overcoming the Fear of Death

When I saw this Alberto Villoldo blog-entry email ocfeardeath34.jpgon overcoming the fear of death, it triggered some memories for me of my own client situations where I became less the “curer” of the serious illness before me and became more the gentle “transition” coach for those clients—the one who helps them more peacefully transition from this life experience to the Spirit World they would soon re-enter.

As he mentions in the blog post, there were times in the two decades of my energy healing practice (REIKI, Shamanic, Hypnosis) when I was called in as a “last resort” with some new client to see if I could perform a miraculous healing and reverse their likely terminal situation.

Despite their desperate desire for reversing their dire situation, I never made miraculous-healing claims to them.  I simply acknowledged that no matter what reason initially brought that person to me, he or she was there before me for a specific need that maybe I could fill, even though it might not be for the same reason that they thought it would be.  No matter the outcome, I would do whatever I could do to help them with their current situation, and that we would face the illness together until they no longer needed or wanted me to help.

I can honestly say that I always did my very best for them—for ALL of them.  After our REIKI sessions, many, if not all, were lightened of negative/heavy energies and severe mental strain that were dragging their attitudes ever downward because REIKI has this amazing ability to simply lift their energy fields to higher frequencies, and to help them hold that wonderful sense of being at peace and feeling a greater sense of well-being. It also eased the pain that they were experiencing and often countered the extremely nasty effects of chemo or radiation.

While I worked on them, I played the most beautiful, ethereal music that I had in my collection and told them to simply relax into the music as we would soon be rising together to the highest level of healing and angelic assistance.  I even made free CD copies for them of that same music to play whenever they needed to bask in that wonderful higher ambiance—to help get them through the days until the next time we could be together to ride the higher energies again.

After only a treatment or two, no matter what process was going on with their body, jumpintospacefear54.jpgthey realized that a deep sense of peace still existed within them. And I lovingly stood by those who requested my continued presence, providing pure, higher frequency energy for them during our REIKI sessions.  While they still breathed life on earth, they could feel the eternal love and the most beautiful higher light that they knew awaited them in the next venue—and in knowing the genuine feel of deep inner peace, they did heal what could be healed within themselves and throughout their relationships while they still had the time on earth left to do so.

That is what Alberto refers to here in this article. Curing and healing are two different things—and sometimes facing our death with a calm grace and feeling deeply at peace inside is a far deeper soul healing than an illness cure can provide.

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“2019 Oct 22 —ENDINGS, TRANSITIONS, AND BEGINNINGS: OVERCOMING FEAR OF DEATH  —  Alberto Villoldo, PhD

 https://thefourwinds.com/blog/shamanism/endings-transitions-beginnings-overcoming-fear-death/  

albertoblogondeath2019.jpg“Fear of death—whether death of the body, a way of thinking, a relationship, a situation, or a dream—must be experienced fully and consciously, and then overcome for new, healthy growth to take place. We master our fear of death when we understand that our nature is transtemporal (outside of time) and undying, continuing for all eternity. …

… At just 12 years old, Annie was the youngest cancer patient I had ever worked with. Her parents had brought her to see me in the hope that One Spirit Medicine would reverse her brain cancer. They had tried every conceivable medical intervention to no avail and were looking to me for the cure they had failed to find anywhere else. Annie had lost all her hair from chemotherapy and looked like a young, smiling Buddha as she sat in a big leather chair in my office.

I explained to Annie’s parents the difference between healing and curing. While curing is the elimination of symptoms, healing works at a much deeper level, treating the causes of the imbalance that lead to disease. And while a cure is the ideal outcome of a medical intervention, healing is the product of a journey in which all aspects of your life are transformed—even if you end up dying. You carry your healed self into your next life.

…I asked Annie’s parents to sit outside in the waiting area so I could be alone with her. After a few moments of small talk, she told me bluntly, “I’m not afraid.” She went on to say that angels came to her every night in her dreams—and even during the day at times. But her parents were deathly afraid for her. “I can’t tell them about the angels,” Annie said. But she thought I would understand. And I did. I sensed that the veils between the worlds were parting for Annie and that her spirit was preparing for the great journey home. But her parents were understandably determined to do everything possible to help Annie live, and this meant trying to get rid of her cancer by taking her to a string of specialists and finally, as a last resort, to me.

I’ve been a practicing shaman long enough to understand that death is part of life. And I have seen that some of my most successful healings consisted of helping my clients die peacefully and consciously. So I performed an Illumination on Annie, to help bring balance to her energy field and thus to her body. The Illumination is the core healing practice of shamanic energy medicine, in which the luminous energy field is cleared of the imprints of disease to help mobilize the body’s own healing systems. …”

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When Things Go Wrong

Yes, we all have them—those times in our life when the normal doings of daily living go suddenly awry: the lawnmower blows a gasket mid yard, the water softener decides to whenthingsgowrongquote67.jpgregurgitate all over the basement floor, a beloved tree blows over in the wind, you are late for work and start to get in the car then notice you have a flat tire, …you get the picture.  It feels like the world is suddenly conspiring against you—and your bank account. 

You could get paranoid about it and start looking over your shoulder like someone or something has it in for you, or you can shrug it off as just some of life’s challenges that suddenly aligned together—all during the same strange week.

Well it does happen that way occasionally, but the other possibility is that there is something you may need to pay more attention to that you’ve been previously ignoring.  What might that be?

Where have you been focusing your energy? That would be the first thing I’d ask myself and I did ask myself that very thing since I’ve just had a week like that.  I’m still trying to make some sense of it.

Personal challenges for us are breaks in status quo—they are often wake-up calls to our consciousness to stay alert and pay more attention to what is transpiring around us because we might be missing something important happening to us or to our current situation.  And what have I determined?

For one thing, these collective energies at present are truly awful. I spend much of the day refocusing myself to be more simply observant and less reactive to people, situations and particularly to the news.  And it doesn’t surprise me that older appliances and machines are revolting now from years of excessive use because stuff doesn’t last forever. But when the overall energies are this chaotically bad—and lower frequency—you can usually expect more things to go wrong around you because conditions are so ripe for them to occur.

My advice for others, as well as for myself: Try not to take it personally—instead just take it in stride as examples of ‘stuff that happens,’ and move through the difficulties one by one until the ‘gone wrongs’ have been rectified.  Don’t fuss, don’t fret, just deal with them one by one until those problems no longer exist.

And know that you are not alone if you’re feeling the tenseness of the collective or the potential for explosive emotions in public settings.  It is simply a part of the energies of this moment in time.

Another suggestion: When you are in social settings, be prepared to be more patient and be more of a listener than a reactive respondent.  Hold your own energies as high as possible for you, and know that ‘THIS TOO SHALL PASS’ though not nearly fast enough for most of us.

Sometimes all you can say to yourself is, “Hang in there. You’ll get through it.”

And then really believe that it’s true.

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